[hopealwayz]

I just wrote him to tell him that I miss therapy with him and asked him if I was foolish to believe all the things he said to me.

It's hard to find closure especially because all off the great memories in the past.

Can you all help me make a list of ways for saying goodbye and finding closure.

Hope,

Please, please can you block ex T? He might take this as harassment given how things ended and I really don't want him to hurt you any more.

Maybe you can write emails but send them to a second email address of yours?

Write but don't send and take them in to show new T?

I know it hurts how things ended but he has told you he doesn't want any more contact with you. Legally this could be further evidence of harassing

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by QuietMind

Hope,

Please, please can you block ex T? He might take this as harassment given how things ended and I really don't want him to hurt you any more.

Maybe you can write emails but send them to a second email address of yours?

Write but don't send and take them in to show new T?

I know it hurts how things ended but he has told you he doesn't want any more contact with you. Legally this could be further evidence of harassing

Yes, please be careful, because he could see this as harassment. (And definitely don't e-mail or call to apologize for e-mailing.) I know it's hard, but please talk about it with your new T instead. When do you see him next?

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From all I know based on your posts, hope, I think the best closure here would be cutting it clearly and for good on your end. No more contact whatsoever. Just think about the opposite: how could it possibly help you to continue chasing him and he would probably continue hurting you? You mentioned on another thread that you found a good therapist now, so perhaps the thing to do is to talk with this new T about your past experience and really steer clear of the old one. Otherwise it may never end or may end in an even worse place.

[junkDNA]

talk about these feelings with your new therapist. your old one is not in the picture anymore... and is likely to make a drastic measure to ensure that...

it seems really painful... i can't imagine... but you have your new therapist to help you untangle all of these feelings. utilize him

[musinglizzy]

Aww Hope...I worry about you. You gotta let this guy go! You're gonna get yourself into trouble with harassment or something....if I remember right, he has already hinted at that. I recently saw a post, too, where you talked about how much you like your new T. Focus all your energy on therapy with the new T, and as hard as it is to do, stop contacting your old T completely. I think by ending all contact with him, it will help you move on from him. Focus on therapy with your new T....old T is gonna cause nothing but heartache and trouble.

[*Laurie*]

I have not read your previous posts about your therapeutic relationship, but I'm assuming that your T ended the therapy?? And that it didn't end well?

If the above is the case, please don't email your former T. You are seeing someone else now? That's great...the thing to do is, as others here have suggested, talk over the attachment to your former T with your new T.