Trying to get out

that could be your medication

having a job has been one of the most beneficial things ive done in my recovery. staying at home all the time, for me, leads to instability. too much time on my hands, too much time to spend thinking and thinking and thinking

is the issue that you don't have childcare , if you were to work again?

i tell pretty much no one about what happened to me

one time i was at work, and a young male cashier was talking about Dr Phil , and i mentioned that i read he is not licensed anymore because of an inappropriate relationship with a female patient.

the cashier said that that shouldn't matter because she was a willing participant

i just smiled and said yeah i know.

MOST people do not understand the concept

I'm sorry she can't understand.

Perhaps these friends would be better for just...distraction?

TELL is not much support. They sent one email back to me saying yes it's horrible what happened to me. That's the extent of what they're able to offer. And the thread at the top of this page of links for if you've been abused by your therapist--they're almost all dead links.

Was on it the whole time I was seeing T1 and it wasn't a problem then.

I had the same experience

I was in such bad shape yesterday I finally emailed T3 to set up my appointment. Going to move on to her now because as kind as T2 is, it's just too intense for me to know he's going to be seeing T1 every few weeks. I can't bear it.

I also have a lot of female issues that I need to talk to someone about--the sexual aspects of this and what it did to my body. I don't feel comfortable talking to T2 about them, and I think they're a pretty big part of what's going on.

Yes, the issue is childcare. It is both outrageous expensive and in very short supply where I live. To go to work full time, I would expect to hand over about 60% of my paycheck to a private babysitter. I'm on two waiting lists for daycares but the waiting lists are two years long and I'm only one year in.

Working part time like I did this past month made a HUGE difference for me. The goal right now is to find something part time that pays enough to cover my childcare expenses so I can at least break even.

Safe travels.

Have you tried finding work that you can do from home, ramona? It is not the same as having an external workplace to go to daily, but could perhaps provide some distraction and purpose beyond thinking about your personal emotional and relationship things.

My job now is work from home in the evenings. There's no way to do actual work while taking care of my baby. He's only 17 months so he needs constant attention and I really can't get work done with him. There's a place I go to that has a workspace you can rent with an onsite daycare room, so sometimes I go there to do some writing. It's more affordable than full blown daycare but I have to remain on site the whole time. I've met a couple of other nice moms there, but I really need a "real" job with some structure and a place to go where people will notice if I don't show up. I get SO dark in my apartment--like I could just disappear and no one would ever notice.

Just checking in to see how youre doing.

I've also been thinking about you, Ramona, and looking back here each day for any updates.

Thank you all so much for looking out for and helping a complete stranger who could have lost her life. My experience with T1 has been the scariest and most painful thing that has ever happened to me. I hope to post again down the road when I can but have to sign off for a while now.

((Ramona)) hope you're okay. We'll be here.

Thinking of you. xo

Hi Everybody-

I don’t how many people, if anyone, are left on the board who remember me, but I have thought of this group a lot over the last two years since I last posted.
I have not been able to post because I filed a lawsuit against my therapist and it has taken this long to settle it. I did win. It was horrible, but I did win.

Lawsuits are a terrible thing and I didn’t know how I could possibly get through it, but it was nothing compared to the Hell I went through with this creep. I have had a difficult life and this guy was the most terrifying, evil thing to ever happen to me. I am so scared when I look back on what happened to me. I am so grateful that I survived it. There were so many days that I thought I would end it. It was the worst time of my life. I am so glad I got away. I did get away.

I have the kindest husband and the most beautiful son. Our lives are REALLY hard but compared to how things were when I was with “T1” (as he’s called in all the old posts) it’s like a dream come true.

I could not see what was happening to me and it was people on this board who were the first to sound the alarm of how much danger I was in. I will always be grateful to the many people who posted here to help me get away from him. I remember telling “T2” “please help me get away. I don’t want to die and leave my family.” And this board helped me get away.

Sending my deepest thanks to you all.

Thank you so much to everyone who sent a kind word to help me get away. Thank you thank you thank you. Thank you so much.

-Ramona

Ramona what did you sue him for? there are too many posts to read the whole story. I’m sorry this happened to you. glad you won. I am in a similar t situation I think.

Ramona,
Welcome back!
--Cool

Professional Negligence of a Therapist, Breach of Fiduciary Duty, and Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress

Thanks for coming back and letting us know. I have wondered how you were doing. Very glad to hear there was a good outcome. What a sanctimonious douche that guy was. Can you tell us what the effect on his license was? Like censure, probation?

I reported to the licensing boards 3 months ago and so far they have done absolutely nothing. It is sickening. I am so truly scared for his other patients.

Unaluna I can't believe you're still here and you remember! It brings me relief. Thank you so much for your help.

Hugs, Ramona. Thanks for checking back in. I'm glad you won your case and survived all of this. I hope the licensing boards take some sort of action...

3 months plus summer equals nothing back yet is probably par for the course.

Really really glad to hear things are better.