[Sadness2008]

I feel incredibly lonely and like I cannot move on. I come to these forums often to read about other people's stories. It seems as though everyone here is suffering just the same or worse than me.

Has anyone out there moved on from what's happened to them? I feel like I might never be able to. I feel heart broken and I just want it to stop.

[DP_2017]

Well I don't have ET but I have a strong attachment, this forum with stories as a whole as terrified me to my very core about every quitting therapy. I don't believe I'll cope at all. I do regret ever going to begin with

[growlycat]

I had erotic transference for my last t and I finally admitted it to him near our last session. He was very considerate and kind about it. He did not shame me or even say it could never happen. He just listened then encouraged me to get out there and meet people.
He was never unethical and never made a move myself. It stayed safe and ended well.

I am in a new state and have a t here. I have moments where the am attracted to him but his sexual orientation makes the animal in me a little dazed and confused. I surprised myself that I could feel anything resembling sexual attraction towards him but I do have the odd moment here and there. But not as all powerful as last t

I miss old t but I am fond of new t too. So the Et is not hurting me, just confusing sometimes

[Shazerac]

Reading this forum can be stressful, and overwhelming.. So much pain, self doubt, and suffering.

Try to keep in mind that many people post here only when they are hurting. Not that many come here when they're feeling good to say "hey life is wonderful, everything is peachy right now." They don't because they are off living their life, having fun, being productive.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by Shazerac

Reading this forum can be stressful, and overwhelming.. So much pain, self doubt, and suffering.

Try to keep in mind that many people post here only when they are hurting. Not that many come here when they're feeling good to say "hey life is wonderful, everything is peachy right now." They don't because they are off living their life, having fun, being productive.

Yes, I think that's one of the main reasons that my marriage counselor said he wishes I wouldn't read these forums so much. Because there have been a few times that I read something here, either related to something I posted about him or just something else someone was dealing with, and was worried he'd react a certain way or do a certain thing, like, take away outside contact. When that wasn't how he reacted or what he was going to do.

I originally came to PC because I was struggling with ET for MC and then came to realize it was actually mostly paternal transference. Which can be just as difficult and painful, I've found (because he can't be my father...) I will post positive things, but I'm more likely to come here when I'm struggling. I imagine most people who maybe came here at one point and then had a good ending with a T or no longer struggle with their feelings for T just stopped posting. And went on to other things in their lives. So this isn't a representative sample.