Is it best to tell them or not?

This may be true for many but i feel it depends on our therapy goals. I need support as I go deal with certain issues. I don’t see this changing anytime soon, for me.

For me, the feelings are caring and connection for current T and PrevT. I could call it love, although it’s not sexual. It’s not romantic. It’s more maternal.

Sometimes I feel a surge of grateful/caring emotion toward T that feels like tiny endorphin bursts. It feels good. It feels happy. Part of it is gratefulness for being heard and supported emotionally. I can’t remember having these feelings or this emotional support from family, spouse or friends.

I thought I had this connection with AbusivePDoc and the Pdoc before him but they only pretended to have my best interest at heart. I certainly felt the feelings.

For me, I believe the feelings come from T and PrevT supplying me with some previous unmet need. Growing up, I never had a person I could tell *everything* to. Never had an hour a week and more be all about me. I had hard, confusing times growing up but there was no one to work these out in real time, in real life.

I am 63 and I’m still trying to figure it out and talk about it with T. I believe these feelings are confusing because we probably didn’t have them met at the proper age or development stage. Now they feel very awkward to have them and sometimes I don’t know what to do with these feelings.

Added: Forgot to answer your question. Should we tell T? I told T and PrevT. They seemed to take it well and let me talk about it...helping me see where it comes from. There are wide ranging feelings that include feeling sexually attracted to T ....to ? My hope is that your T is well trained and responds to you in a helpful way if you choose to disclose your feelings to him/her.