My therapist admitted he’s attracted to me

Oh I definitely don’t believe he’s fixated on me or anything. I think it’s more or less he enjoys me as a client and also finds me attractive. I’m confused by the last part though, are you saying he might be making these thoughts up just to see how I react, and not actually feel the way he’s telling me?

Um - you know the 80/20 rule? Im saying, it may be 20 pct how he feels, but 80 pct his REASON for telling you IS in YOUR best interest, towards your therapy. Thats how i worked with my t. I USED any attraction i felt towards him in the service of my therapy.

My motto was, like what happens in vegas, stays in vegas? Only in therapy! It stays in the therapy room. It brings subconscious stuff out. You dont bring the Chippendales home with you. But maybe you learn something about yourself.

Get out of this 'relationship'.

He is *not* being appropriate.

There is a difference in using transference/counter-transference without breaking ethical boundaries (as it ought to be). He is not doing that.

I am all for acknowledging clients' responsibility re what happens in therapy, however here it is on him. Yes, you asked questions but *he* ought to have upheld moral and ethical boundaries so as to make the therapeutic space 'safe'.

It is *not* safe and he is not safe.

PS: Your gut instincts are also giving you the same message (i.e. warning), please listen to your inner alarm bells.

I called 2 different Ts and left voicemails. I’m not sure why but I’m SUPER anxious about it. Now just waiting to hear back. Idk if this is the right move or not, but I figure if everyone here is telling me that what’s happening is not ok, I should listen and at least consult with a different T.