[Woman_Overboard]

I think my ego is a huge part of my feeling trapped/stuck in my own life. I want to let go of past issues and programming, release the ideas/thoughts of how I 'should' be, and start living for my SELF. I want to stop letting feelings of guilt control me. I want to let go/break through. To stop living with the mindset that I am a victim because of what has happened to me. Acceptance and love for self is something I long for.

[sabby]

Moving forward and breaking the hold that old lies have kept us in is a difficult process. Changing how one thinks can and is done quite often by those who are willing to do the hard work that it takes to make those changes.

Finding ourselves within some kind of spirituality is also a process. Maybe you can work on that through getting in touch with that which makes you feel more relaxed like a walk in the woods or on a beach, sitting in a park watching children play and seeing their innocents. Maybe it can come through meditation or prayer. Even doing deep breathing exercises can help.

Maybe the place to start is to begin believing that you are a survivor and no longer a victim. You may have to tell yourself that many times over every single day to begin to believe it, but that's okay, it's how we change our thinking.

Wishing you well on your journey!

[Aslanlight]

I really relate to everything you said! I feel trapped in my own life by a serious health condition, and abuse that I think somehow still haunts me.

I hope that we can both find our true selves and learn to let the past go.

[Little Lulu]

I was able to make some of those changes with the help of a mentor in my support group (Co-Dependents Anonymous). She had done 'the work' to change her thinking and let go of the victim role herself and she passed on what she knew to me. We've been friends for about 10 years now. I am so grateful to her and my group.

[bipolar angel]

It is a struggle, after a previous unhealthy relationship, I did therapy and thought I was better...then I met my current partner...seemed so diffetent that I was sure I was better. Long story short, while he was not into drinkg/drugs, he turned out to be control freak, who was more emotionally controling/kept putting me down. So it is a struggle to remember that we are all deserving of respect and to not accept less from others in their treatment of us. That we are all ok and to tell ourselves, positive self talk not negative.I'm trying to pick out positive things in my life each day.thanks for reading, sorry i ranted a little

[Woman_Overboard]

Originally Posted by bipolar angel

It is a struggle, after a previous unhealthy relationship, I did therapy and thought I was better...then I met my current partner...seemed so diffetent that I was sure I was better. Long story short, while he was not into drinkg/drugs, he turned out to be control freak, who was more emotionally controling/kept putting me down. So it is a struggle to remember that we are all deserving of respect and to not accept less from others in their treatment of us. That we are all ok and to tell ourselves, positive self talk not negative.I'm trying to pick out positive things in my life each day.thanks for reading, sorry i ranted a little

Thank YOU for writing ) it's nice to hear other people's stories/ideas. You can learn a lot about yourself by listening to others... and from sharing with others.

[CANDC]

I find new activities can be ones that I develop a new identity. Something like yoga strengthens the body and gives a new body identity over time.
Daily meditation helps let the past drain away.
There are an unlimited number of ways to reinvent ourselves. Whatever is in your heart will lead you home.

[BeckyM]

[quote=Woman_Overboard;3997992]I think my ego is a huge part of my feeling trapped/stuck in my own life. I want to let go of past issues and programming, release the ideas/thoughts of how I 'should' be, and start living for my SELF. I want to stop letting feelings of guilt control me. I want to let go/break through. To stop living with the mindset that I am a victim because of what has happened to me. Acceptance and love for self is something I long f

[BeckyM]

I understand more than you know.