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Nov 09, 2014, 02:15 PM
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I have grown up in a christian home and attend church with my family. But when I am dealing with so many emotions and problems in my life, I find it hard to pray. I know that prayer is going to help me, but I find it so hard to do. I have grown close to many friends from my youth group and different youth retreats I have been on, which has helped me greatly. I guess I am just wondering if anyone has experienced this same thing?
A close friend spoke to me one day and told me that unless I can forgive myself, I will not be able to love anyone else, especially God. I know that God forgives me for everything, but it's forgiving myself and letting go of my past mistakes that I am trying to work on. Thank you to anyone who responds to my post. I appreciate it. |
 Fuzzybear, Webgoji
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Nov 10, 2014, 02:23 PM
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i like to remember that 'forgiving' doesn't mean saying what happened was OK, but that i no longer hold onto it. i release it. it does not have a hold on me because my heart has opened.
it's a practice thing, you might, probably will,,, have to practice it over and over and over .... persevere~ 
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 Fuzzybear, HuskerLove, Webgoji
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Nov 11, 2014, 07:15 AM
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Dear Husker,
The situation is not very simple and there are many aspects of what you have written. I will try to focus on the forgiveness part only... The thing is it is sometimes very hard to pray or even forgive yourself when you feel that you have done something wrong. The severity doesn't matter because for every person, it is different. For example, if I cheated someone even with a single dollar, I would not be able to forgive myself over that unless I have spoken to that person and sought their forgiveness or by repaying them. So this is the conscious which makes you the way you feel. If you are a kind of person for whom even the smallest of missteps feel like big mistakes, then I advise you to be careful, that's what I have learnt. It is very difficult for me to cope with my conscious and the torture I get if I feel I have done wrong to others. Sometimes makes you anti-social to avoid situations and people; but this is something that has to be done to earn peace within. So in order to be able to go easy on yourself, you would require more discipline and assertion in your affairs. Be well! Quote:
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Nov 11, 2014, 02:39 PM
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You cannot learn, know the difference between right and wrong other than intellectually without experiencing/making "mistakes". You did the best you could at the time with where you were then and made bad choices. You are not likely to make those mistakes again, if you cannot "forgive" yourself yet, at least give yourself credit for being able to/having learned from your mistakes? Mistakes can be good things! Blessings even!
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Nov 13, 2014, 08:51 PM
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I think part of releasing is stopping the blame game. Someone else commented how you did the best you could. That is all we can do. I personally have tons of mistakes, but I try not to keep making the same ones over and over again. That isn't easy but if I fall down once, I get up. If I fall down a thousand times. For me that is more important than forgiving because somewhere it is said that the creator of all is above judgement. If there is no one to judge me, why should I judge myself? So I am falling down for the millionth time (I stopped counting long ago) but one thing I am absolutely certain of is I will get up for the millionth and one time. That to me is part of releasing too. To just keep going on. |
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Dec 09, 2014, 03:22 PM
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Dec 15, 2014, 03:25 AM
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Something that really aids in the process of forgiving yourself for perceived past 'mistakes' is to direct your conscious energy to identifying and reflecting upon the ways in which you have strengthened yourself and refined your character as a result of having gone through those experiences. That way you can view those aspects of your past in a newfound positive light because you recognize how those experiences ultimately served to help you improve yourself. They served an important function. The more you contemplate this perspective the easier it will be to transmute feelings of guilt & regret into feelings of acceptance and gratitude. : )
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"Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it" |
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Dec 15, 2014, 04:42 PM
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I personally understand this greatly. From my perspective, to overcome this problem, you must start looking at things from an alternate perspective. Remember something. You are having a HUMAN experience. You will make mistakes because that's the best way for you to learn. It is OK to make mistakes because they help you learn the most effective way. That is not ONLY ok, but it is beautiful! Try to think about what your "God" is trying to teach you! He wants you to learn from your "wrongs". Expand your perspective and try to remember your "wrongs" are just lessons.
 Then once you learn why you did what you did, and what you "should" have done to changed that, amend the wrong by amending those you have wronged. Then you can forgive yourself and forget and move on. You are learning and that is a think to be celebrated, not feel hurt and sad over.
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