I ran into a neighboor from my old neighboorhood.. her son and my son grew up together - fixtures in each others houses..

I think my heart is broken... she is 5'6" and weighs... 73 lbs.. I hugged her.. and I couldn't bear the pain..

So for me... please, please say a prayer for her.. that she will seek the help that she needs.. I gave her my T name, plus this site.. and also my phone..

Please pray for wisdom for me.. I need to help this person.. I have to do something...I don't know what to do.. she needs immediate help...

She refuses to go to the hospital for a feeding tube..

If you have ideas.. please PM me.

Thank you..

[EJ711]

Freewill,

I will pray for her.

I wish there were a way to give her some of my extra pounds.

Hugs,

EJ

thank you... I am so worried....

[SeptemberMorn]

My prayers are with you and your friend, Freewill.

Don't they do interventions when someone is that bad? I don't know.

Freewill, please don't take on any more than you can handle, Sweety! Remember your own limitations then let God do the rest, ok?

[(JD)]

Will pray.

Did you tell her you'll go with her?

Can you take her to your T with you?

I'm just moving on your insistance that you feel you must help her...

Does she have a medical doctor? Can you just take her there and maybe the MD will admit her?

Can you get her to drink nutrition drinks if nothing else? Has she said why she's allowed herself to be so thin?

(((hugs)))

Thanks..for the questions.. and prayor..

yes.. I said.. please let's go to hospital.. I will be with you.. she said "I will never go to a hospital again"... I pleaded..I suggested a different hospital...

I will come for you ever day.. I will take you to my T - she said "I don't have a problem with ED".. my jaw is sore so I don't eat..I don't have a problem..

she said.. I have to prove to my family that I can get better.. and I said.. you need help and support.. (I've been there with my ED).. she said "only I can do this"...she said "my family loves me"... I said "I know"... but this needs a special kind of help.. please.. let me be there...

And I left it that I would be in touch real some.. as in tommorrow.. I cannot let this happen.. I just can't... this is a beautiful.. wonderful.. person...

Then I ran into her husband.. and said.. "she needs help... "
he said " she needs new dentures.. and so once she gets that.."... ahhhhhhhhh.... no..... 5'6" 73lbs.....new dentures... aren't going to do it....and he just didn't seem to get it that she is 67 years old.. and had a heart attack last year too..

she said "she let herself go"... that is why this happened..

Oh I can't tell you how distressing this is...

I am going to pick up the nutritional drinks at the very least... I am going to be there.. they will have to get a restraining order to keep me away....

freewill, you're not "letting this happen"....the world is full of chaos...we cannot control the destiny of others.
Perhaps it is her time. Maybe her body is shutting down. Everyone makes choices and they have that right, no matter how much we think otherwise....when we intervene we take away that right and make choices for them, essentially playing god.
there's no hope in that, only disappointment.
you do what you can do by talking to her, make an attempt at getting her some food but then accept what happens.
you or I do not control life on earth, only god does.
you're a good person for caring but don't beat yourself up on this.

[DocClyde]

(((Free))) wish there was another good thought I could give, compared to what the others have listed...

How about inviting her over to your house for conversation and dinner?

[Pita]

Freewill - God bless you for trying to help another - regardless of why they are in the situation that they are in. In Arizona, we have Adult Protective Services that, if called in a situation with someone who is 67 and in her fragile state, might intervene on her behalf. Is there anything in your jurisdiction like that? Maybe if there is you could give them a call Monday morning and see if they can do something to help or recommend some other way to help. Please, please, please, tho - take care of yourself and remember you are a special person too.

thank you all for your loving support

[OliviaC]

Freewill,

Praying for your friend and you as I type this.....

Olivia

[recluse1]

(((freewill))) i pray that your friend will allow someone to help her. i pray her the wisdom to see there is a problem. i pray, that if not you, someone will find a way. may God aslo bless you for all your love and good intentions.

[xp1155]

Praying....

[wickedwings]

freewill, i pray that your friend will allow help into her life, so she can feel better and be healed.

Freewill I will pray for her and you too.