[Sesiley]

In the past I have had psychosis, mania, depression...you know. And of course hypersexuality is just one symptom...anyway, I would get influenced by another person and, left me confused and I would act on impulse and couldn't say no.....then I would come back to him, but I felt like it was out off my control.

What do I do or say??

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[A18793715]

Has he read about your illness?

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[Sesiley]

No, but his mom has schizophrenia and she stays in the hospital.

I have sent...copy and paste things from online to explain. But I can't get it through to him...

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does he ridicule you about your past behavior? like almost to the point of verbal abuse?
i am sorry he doesn't seem to understand. does he read the things you have sent him about this disorder? has he tried to talk to your psychiatrist about these things? sometimes people take it better when it's said to them by a doctor. (i'm assuming you have a psychiatrist)

[Sesiley]

I have thought about that, taking him to my doctor

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[Sesiley]

I can't get him on a day off...

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[A18793715]

That's what I've done in the past. Bring the person I'm dating to my doctors appointments.

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[CopperStar]

If your husband is hurt and bitter, then the relationship may be beyond repair, and it may be best to leave the option of divorce on the table. Your husband likely felt cheated on all those times, and also like you were/are just keeping him around between "flings" but don't really love him. Even if you were unable to control your behavior, you must remember that your husband's emotions are just as real and valid as yours, and again, if he feels very hurt, angry, bitter and/or if his trust is broken, then the relationship might not be salvageable. Might be worth discussing with a good therapist just in case you have to make a tough decision in the future. Staying in a relationship where ridicule, mistrust, passive-aggression, etc run rampant is very toxic to one's mental and emotional health.

[Sesiley]

Originally Posted by CopperStar

If your husband is hurt and bitter, then the relationship may be beyond repair, and it may be best to leave the option of divorce on the table. Your husband likely felt cheated on all those times, and also like you were/are just keeping him around between "flings" but don't really love him. Even if you were unable to control your behavior, you must remember that your husband's emotions are just as real and valid as yours, and again, if he feels very hurt, angry, bitter and/or if his trust is broken, then the relationship might not be salvageable. Might be worth discussing with a good therapist just in case you have to make a tough decision in the future. Staying in a relationship where ridicule, mistrust, passive-aggression, etc run rampant is very toxic to one's mental and emotional health.

We love each other and we forgot the past. He just doesn't take the psychotic, mania with hypersexuality and impulse etc...seriously. I know I hurt him, never meant to. He has hurt me. But we love each other unconditionally.

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[CopperStar]

Originally Posted by Sesiley

We love each other and we forgot the past. He just doesn't take the psychotic, mania with hypersexuality and impulse etc...seriously. I know I hurt him, never meant to. He has hurt me. But we love each other unconditionally.

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Those might be nice things to think, but please keep what I said on the backburner in case there ever comes a day when you need the validation. Your post indicated that his attitude is bothering you, enough for you to post about it and ask for advice on what you can do or say. The thing is that you cannot control his emotions and thoughts. If he is convinced that you did certain things completely within your control, then there is nothing you can do or say to change his mind, because he is already expressing that he does not trust or believe you. And that spells trouble for a relationship. If it gets too toxic and you need to leave, or if the relationship goes south in general at some point, you should know that you were never in control of his emotions or thoughts, and that you did not 'fail'.

[Sesiley]

Originally Posted by CopperStar

Those might be nice things to think, but please keep what I said on the backburner in case there ever comes a day when you need the validation. Your post indicated that his attitude is bothering you, enough for you to post about it and ask for advice on what you can do or say. The thing is that you cannot control his emotions and thoughts. If he is convinced that you did certain things completely within your control, then there is nothing you can do or say to change his mind, because he is already expressing that he does not trust or believe you. And that spells trouble for a relationship. If it gets too toxic and you need to leave, or if the relationship goes south in general at some point, you should know that you were never in control of his emotions or thoughts, and that you did not 'fail'.

Thank you

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