[SmilesandTears]

I am told I do not think strait. My husband got me to take antidepressant 10 years ago. I am still on them, he says I am still not stable. Sometimes I think he get me to take them just to control me better and so I can be more passive and that way he can just always get what he wants. 2 months ago he told me to swich meds because the ones I was on took away my libido. I went thur hell (am still there) over this switch just because he want sex. I am the one that should be mad he never gave me an orgasm. But he says it all my fault. He want to separate because I have no libido. I said I will still do sex but he says it no good if I dont like it, he wont let me do it. I cant belive he is complaining about this, he's the one that wanted me to take antidepressant. You have to take the good with the bad, you cant always get your way.

How do I know if I am being abused or if I am imagining it.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Honestly sex is part of a healthy relationship....I think it's reasonable that you try a med change to restore function.....

[SmilesandTears]

I did not say I dont want sex. I want an orgasm. I am 35, never had one thanks to all the stupid drugs. The issue here is he thinks he can just order the wife he wants by getting me to change medication. He want me to be less intense, here have some drugs. Still not good enough, here take have some therapy. Therapy is making me too emotional, stop the therapy. Oups I feel nothing not even things in my vagaina, here stop taking these drugs and take those instead. Those drugs still dont live up to your expextation. Ok stop the drugs now we are back to square one and hes still not happy.

Forgot to mention he put me thur 8 years of sex trauma. Anyone would be done with sex for life after what ive been thur. Yes, I had a skin in the middle of my vagina making it extremly painful for me to have intercourse for 8 years. All he could say the whole time is Why cant you relax, here have some wine, here have more wine. There was never enough wine to numb this terrible pain. That how I learn that wine should relax me if I drink enough of it. Now am an alcooholic.

[ofthevalley]

I'm sorry you're husband isn't more sensitive to your needs. Being on an antidepressant affects my ability to orgasm too. It's a vicious cycle. Depressed so you take an ad then you can't enjoy sex which only makes you more depressed. I hope you get something worked out. If he tortured you sexually separation probably isn't a bad idea.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Well with or without intercourse your path to an orgasm is likely a med change.....Wellbutrin is pretty much the only antidepressant that doesn't have sexual side effects.....

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

Well with or without intercourse your path to an orgasm is likely a med change.....Wellbutrin is pretty much the only antidepressant that doesn't have sexual side effects.....

You could also try Lamictal as a mild anti depressant. It's good from 100mgs to about 150mgs for that purpose. It was the best antidepressant I have taken. Sex itself can act as a mood booster. There are many benefits to having a sex life. I went crazy when I had sexual dysfunction from the AD I was taking. It was like a part of me died. We are sexual critters.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by Day Tripper

You could also try Lamictal as a mild anti depressant. It's good from 100mgs to about 150mgs for that purpose. It was the best antidepressant I have taken. Sex itself can act as a mood booster. There are many benefits to having a sex life. I went crazy when I had sexual dysfunction from the AD I was taking. It was like a part of me died. We are sexual critters.

Good to know I thought lamictal was just a mood stabilizer I never considered it as an AD.

[joshuas-mommy]

Yeah. I think you are being abused.

Only someone who knows both you and your husband well irl will be able to tell if you are being abused or not... I hope you are able to figure out which and resolve this situation, it must be very confusing

*Willow*

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

Good to know I thought lamictal was just a mood stabilizer I never considered it as an AD.

Some mood stabilisers are better at preventing mania and some are better at preventing depression. Lamotrigine can be used in treatment resistant depression as an adjunct to an AD.

*Willow*

[RainyDay107]

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

Good to know I thought lamictal was just a mood stabilizer I never considered it as an AD.

It's not considered an AD. It's a mood stabilizer that works on the "depressive" side.

OP, my pdoc added Wellbutrin when I had sexual side effects from my SSRI.

Originally Posted by glamslam

It's not considered an AD. It's a mood stabilizer that works on the "depressive" side.

OP, my pdoc added Wellbutrin when I had sexual side effects from my SSRI.

Did the Wellbutrin have any noticeable effect?

Lamictal as an anti depressant is mild compared to the absolute nothingness that an SSRI's made me feel. You certainly wont feel depressed... nor happy... nor anything in my case. SSRI's dampen a widespread of emotions. With lamictal you will still feel fear and angst. It helps a little but not a lot. I think having some fear and angst in your life is necessary for motivational reasons. The SNRI I was on, EFFEXOR, didn't effect my sex life but I was never on a high dosage. On all of these drugs I could laugh though... so there's that.

Wellbutrin didn't have any effect on me until I went to 300mgs, in which panic attacks twice a day started. That nasty legacy of Wellbutrin recently stopped 3 years after stopped taking it.