[thetheft]

You probably know I'm only 16. im a sophomore in high school. I feel like im the only one of my friends actually worrying about college. I am the oldest of all my best friends.. but idk.
Also, i have my future with my boyfriend in mind too.
I am 16 and in love, and that sounds bad and all, but its true and i plan on having a future with him. He is going to be a cop, but also thinking about the military. And it scares me.
The thing is, where we live, there are only tech. colleges and i want to go to the art institute an hour and a half away.. He said he didnt think it would work if i lived in a different city because he would stay right here.
Its causing me to just, dismiss college all together because honestly i dont think a careere in art would do anything to bring in an income or anything.
aldkjfsljfslfjs. Idk. I feel like im just over thinking right now../:

[Perna]

I would not sacrifice yourself and your own dreams for someone else, even someone one loves. Mature love can make most problems in a relationship work but though I have known many people/instances where one regretted giving up one's own dreams, I do not know of any where having to move on from another person (to get what one wanted for one's own life) ended badly. Everyone is working on their own lives and when we try to move over into someone else's dreams and forsake our own, that causes problems for us. Parents, spouses, children, boyfriends/girlfriends, regular friends and family all swirl around us in our lives, coming and going as they need, trying to mold to another's mold can't work ultimately.

[einundzwanzig]

ya dont give up on having a career even if not in art for some guy. love wont pay the bills, love wont make you feel independent, ya love may be good but its not the thing that should decide your future. i have a boyfriend and i even almost gave up on going back to Germany just so i could be with him. and yes i am in love but if its meant to be my boyfriend will either come with me or we will have to move on. same in your case, if this love is meant to be he will come with you or he will havw to let you go. dont dismiss college or career for a guy... men aren't that great anyway

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[thetheft]

Thanks einundzqanzig, that last part made me smile. [: lol.

[missbelle]

one day at a time thetheft.......things change......relax and don't worry until there is something to worry about. For now all is well.

[Umbral_Seraph]

Just as you don't like all the things you liked when you were 10 you're not going to like all the same things you like now when you're 20...if this makes sense to anyone...

[thetheft]

Thanks umbral seraph I understand.

[Umbral_Seraph]

[turquoisesea]

I agree you shouldn't give up what you want for the relationship - I know 1.5 hours seems a long way away but, it's not really. You could still do weekend trips if that's still what you wanted to do.

One option is to get a generalized degree to help you figure out what you want. Take it in a field that interests you and make sure the degree will allow you to try out what you want to try out.

What type of art are you thinking of? I'm in a degree for music right now, so I can understand about the worries for $$ etc.

[einundzwanzig]

Ya I would love to be only 1,5 hours away from my boyfriend... lol Germanys a little further than that...

I do wish you luck.

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Ya, well, men aren't that great anyway.

[thetheft]

I'm thinking interior design. Maybe some like, graphic art? With computers and everything. Idk, its going to be like, 95,000 for that, compaird to 2,000 if i went to nail school (which is what i want to do most of all). And thats only 30 mins away..