 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Aug 24, 2011, 01:20 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Hi There
 First post...I have a problem... I need to accept my college course - asap - but am having difficulties. I want to go on a do Psychology but i fear coz i suffer MH problems (Social Anxiety, Erythrophobia, Depression, HOCD & Intrusive Thoughts), there is there is no point in me accepting this choice. The other choice i have is Forensic & Enviromental Analysis. Psychology, i want to pick this. I want to work with people and i want to defo do something in this area. Problem is - erythrophobia. Erythrophobia, you may not have heard of it, but its a fear of blushing. It goes beyond a fear, i actully blush at the drop of a hat. It happens at the most innappropiate situations. Now imagine me working as a therapist or a guidence counsellor and i blush............well actully strike, that i may not even pass the emotional critera for the jobs... Forensic & Enviromental Analysis is the other. This course would be an advantage for jobs. There would be more jobs readily available for me in this area. Plus im not directly working with people, so blushing and anxiety will be less of an issue in the future - regarding work. Question - do i go for what i want to do - Psychology - regardless of how the future is? Or do i go where im safe in the future for a job and my MH? Im not asking you to answer those questions - there are what im asking myself. Im lost and confused and i am actully, to be honest really upset and stressed over this. See the future, the thoughts of it............well i cant deal with the thoughts of it. Some advice would be apprichated & im sorry if my post sounds stupid, but this is a big deal for me. Tnx for reading |
|
#2
Aug 24, 2011, 02:43 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Hi MyUserName, welcome to Psych Central!
 Two things that have never worked out very well for me have been: 1. Choosing (or avoiding) a course (of study or action) to fit with what I saw as my limitations. In grade school and high school I hated writing assignments and didn't expect to ever be able to write well or to enjoy it. It was that much worse when I had to write under a time limit in a room with other students. Clearly (I thought) I needed to stick to careers involving lab work and equations. Something like psychology, although I was interested in it, had to be out of the question -- way too much talking and writing involved. 2. Counting on having overcome (somehow  ) a perceived limitation by the time it would start seriously getting in my way. "I hate to write but I do want to go to college. Maybe by the time I get to college I won't mind writing so much." Whenever I did that I'd usually end up wondering, "Now what do I do?!" and blaming myself both for the still-undealt-with limitation and for the bad planning that must've gotten me into that situation.What's turned out to work best for me has been to follow, not some plan calculated years ahead to yield me the greatest returns with the least grief, but... my interests.  When I got into psychology after all and started finding myself in situations where I felt I had something to say but the only possible way to say it was by writing a paper -- I found I actually enjoyed the challenge of putting the paper together and tweaking it till it said what I meant as well as I could get it to. Nowadays I spend a lot of my free time (and some of my working time) at the computer... writing!  I know you not only don't enjoy blushing but apparently find it triggering. Still -- can you, by any chance, imagine the possibility of blushing occasionally, treating it as something (like your hair color) that just happens, and still getting your job done? |
 MyUserName
|
|
#3
Aug 25, 2011, 08:31 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I liked this idea...
Quote:
...... I accepted Psychology there and its now official. Still i do worry about the future, but the future could be a million and one different ways - all i have is today... Im a here and now person, but this decision, i couldnt hide from the fact this is a decision for my future - which ment i got thoughts of it & ment that i see my limitations and ultimetly it got me stressed out. God only knows what the future will be for me, all i have is today. Tnx 4 the reply & sharing your story
__________________
"This is one race for whom psychoanalysis is of no use whatsoever." - Sigmund Freud about the Irish "Im the one who has to die when its time for me to die, so let me live my life the way i want to.." ..pretty please!  
|
|
#4
Aug 25, 2011, 08:46 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I set out in 1966 to become one thing and in 1971, the end of my junior year in college had to change my major because of MH issues. I wandered out in the world with a totally different degree but even the ideas I had about what I would do with it, the reality ended up way different from what I thought. Then, in 2000, when I was 50 and it was the millennium, I was thinking about what it would be like to be old, looking back on my life, would I regret anything? I suddenly thought of the abandoned dream of 1966 and picked it up again, got another degreen in 2007 and am living that dream now.
Pick something you want to do and give it a try. Things won't happen the way you imagine because all the external parts; the jobs, economy, other people aren't things we can control. If you follow your heart, your heart will find a way to keep moving forward, just like a stream figures out how to get to the sea? It might not be like you imagine but it will still be rewarding and "yours".
__________________
"Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius |
| MyUserName
|
|
#5
Aug 25, 2011, 02:09 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
 Plan and stress as you will, the only time you can make (or decline to make) choices/decisions is... here and now. No matter how you imagine the future, when you get there and see how your choices/decisions turned out, it'll be here and now and you'll be in the perfect position to deal with the situation.By the way, the only time you can have thoughts and worries about the future (or about your limitations, etc.) is... here and now.
|
| MyUserName
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
