Everybody laughed

One person mentioned how I'm quiet 'as a joke' in front of class, I thought that was inappropriate. I hate presenting and raising my hand, but he had to say that in front of the class, and everyone laughed. It is embarassing. The average age of this class is 35. I'm in my 20s and the eldest is 57. I don't know why he had to be rude, he's balding, he should know better and be more mature in class. I'm upset, I know he jokes, and its a joke, but that doesn't justify anything to me right now. I went up to him and said "that was mean" and he tried to talk, but I was too upset at the moment, I don't know how to act when I see him again. I'm just not going to talk to him/ avoid him. I just want to graduate quick and get these semesters over with. Right now I really wish I didn't have to deal with people while I'm trying to get my education

Do you honestly think that it's going to be any different after you get your education? You are a nursing student.....you are going to run into even more rude people than what you just experienced here when you are dealing especially with the SICK public who are in their worst condition.

Just some food for thought.....

I understand it was a joke, I was sarcastic with him when I told him that he was mean, we have 2 separate exams this week and next, I'm worried of failure because people are failing my friends have failed, and I'm worried it was so hard to get in, i'm so scared. I thought he shouldve been more understanding and sensitive to my feelings. Nobody has been for the past week, nobody has been sensitive to my feelings.. make me feel alright, and it just drove me crazy my dog even made me slip and trip while I walked him! He was wagging his tail looking up at me, laughing...

I just realized I got a "get over it" response I really don't appreciate it, nobody's perfect everyone runs into issues once Ina while you're not perfect either , if it was somehow meant to be beneficial then okay . But next time make an appropriate emotionally sensitive reply remember what this forum is about, but plse refrain from posting on my thread please I don't need anymore of this , you think I don't know that? Even health care workers who are smart need consoling we are people too

Dont be silly man!
I understand your point of being laughed at in class though. Its really upsetting and it hurts. It happened a few times to me when i was in school, so i know how it feels. If the guy who teased you offers you an apology, just accept and thank him for it. You must tell him not to do it again though!
Being quiet isnt a bad thing at all, so dont be so sensitive about it Im sure people werent laughing in a bad way, we often get a bit too paranoid when people laugh, but i doubt anyone really thinks badly of you for being so quiet Take it easy

while i am sorry with what you had to go through, i do agree with this post above.

hugs

I don't mean to sound rude but it sounds to me like you have completely overreacted. People say much worse things then just being called "quiet". And if people laughed, then just laugh as well, friends do laugh at each other as well you know, over here it's called "banter". You don't need to make a big deal out of it and say you will never talk to that person again.. And the dog laughing as you fell over is quite funny.

Hello. I understand and agree with the opinions I’ve seen here. So pardon me, I as I wish to express that I am not attempting to contest or argue with anything stated. As someone who does have severe learning disabilities I’ve dealt with my fair share of beratement due to poorly representing myself within academia; I have very poor articulation.

So I do relate to what it feels like to have a poor classroom experience. I’m sorry that things turned out the way that they did Jan1212. As another student myself working to enter the medical field I sincerely hope that things work out for you. You’ll be surprised at how often people poorly communicate with no malicious intention to hurt anyone. Your classmate might even feel sad because he didn't want to hurt you. You can never truly know these things until there’s at least some dialog. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you that your classmate can be more considerate of your feelings. Perhaps the next time you see him things can begin to move forward in a more positive direction for everyone. I know that your scared but you don’t have to give up on your dreams to be a nurse. So please hang in there.

With that said; I believe that this is a place of healing. So if someone states that they do not wish to be told to get over it, perhaps it is for the best that we respectfully honor those wishes. I do not know how things are done over there LFC555. But I do have a baseless, unsupported, and non-anecdotal view of how people treat one another in the UK. I believe that people there are incredibly passive-aggressive and cruel. This personal view of mine is a distorted perception that I’m working to address. Just as I struggle with those thoughts so does Jan1212 struggle with thoughts of projection. (With regards to the dog.) Who I’m sure is really a loving and caring creature.

The point being is that there is a better way. Just because other people do behave certain ways doesn’t make it any less painful to be treated certain ways.

Quite frankly, using other people as a model for how they treat others harsher than Jan1212 just seems like a rationale for this ‘get over it’ mentality. I’m not suggesting that is your intention. So I sincerely apologize if I had offended anyone here. But I don’t believe your concept of banter should be acceptable. I have been repeatedly hurt but your idea of banter throughout my whole entire life. It isn’t a fun experience for anyone to endure. That might not be a big deal for you. But it is a big deal for me.

Laughter is the best stress-reliever. You should try it sometime and no,I'm not being mean or unsupportive. Try it. People could do much worse than call you quiet, and... You are admittidly quiet. So nobody concocted/spread vicious rumours. People poke fun and laugh at eachother, its called humour...Sorry you felt slighted in class, but here's a golden opportunity to work on yourself, you're gonna need a much thicker skin to get by in the working world, with sick miserable patients no less... Good luck.

What I see here is your experience being negated. The Book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my mind and life. People typically say....it was a joke, I didn't mean it, get over it, you are too sensitive/overreacting.

our feelings are facts, they are not right or wrong, they simply ARE.

ALL ignorant (ignorant meaning not understanding) sayings....... We all; want to be validated and heard. We don't need it explained away, etc......we simply want to hear: I am sorry that hurt.

I do understand that it's humor, its meant to be funny, please don't need to say it again and again. I don't get why you think being laughed at for a disorder is okay? Right now, RIght now, right now, I don't need any of this, right now I am stressed out, so don't say it's okay to make fun in front of class. or don't need to say I am overreacting, or "it could be much worse" that's inappropriate to say, when I am upset right now. When I am upset at this time, it does not mean I am like this indefinitely. Please don't spam saying "agreed" I already said please don't post anything like that

Nobody read "at the moment" or just had bad choice of words that I didn't really need to read. (with the exception of a couple people). i am sensitive at the moment so again, think carefully before posting and I'm telling you for all posts in the future, just don't post or try to negotiate with me on here if you have the urge so bad, PM me.

I do apologize for not validating your sensitivity or even maybe the possibility that people around you all your life have laughed at you or made fun of you in a teasing manor that has created your extreme sensitivity to laughing. I know when my mother was growing up......when no one had glasses & she couldn't even read the board in school. When she ended up with glasses everyone made fun of her & her "four eyes" (the teasing comments that were made back in the days before like now when everyone wears glasses). I also was always the quiet one in class all the way through getting my BS degree in Computer Science & even classes I took after graduating. I remember comments in class about how quiet I was. I didn't let it bother me because the quiet at that time was MY CHOICE. Even though I had top grades in my classes & I always wished I had the self-confidence & the quick thinking to be able to respond in class like the others. I was a slow at putting my thoughts together & afraid that I would say the wrong thing or that I wouldn't answer the question correctly because I might have mis-understood what was asked.

That came from listening to my father say very STUPID things in conversations with other people from the time I can remember. I always thought if he would just keep his mouth shut no one would know how stupid he was....I was always so embarrassed by him & he was oblivious to the stupid things he said. He didn't drink or do drugs....he just never read or knew anything about what was going on in the world around him but would talk like he did through opinions & no knowledge. So for me, unless I really thought something through before ever opening my mouth, I was afraid I would sound like my father & to me that would be the worst thing in the world.....so it was better to be quiet even if I did know the answer....at least if I didn't, no one would know & it was more embarrassing for me to say something wrong than it was to stay quiet....so the choice was mine.

It's also important to be able to put your quietness into perspective. Being oversensitive about how you are & placing the responsibility on others to be sensitive about how sensitive YOU ARE is something that is important to deal with because life around us isn't sensitive to our sensitivities & it's important to put our experiences into their proper perspective. That is why my post was a "food for thought" not a "get over it" reply. It is important to learn from these experiences because the working world is not sensitive. You will run into co-workers that love to joke around....you will run into those who are quite serious, then in your nursing field, you will definitely run into sick people whose only interest is that they are not feeling good.....their reactions are usually a lot less pleasant than laughing at someone.

I just want to share a horse experience I had in college when you commented about your dog laughing at you. I was in a horsemanship class....we were all gathered on our horses around the instructor....my horse was being fidgety. The instructor said to smack him on the rear with my crop. I did. The next thing I knew, I was flying over his ears & landed on the ground on my back right under his smilling little horsey face.....I could see his teeth in his little smile.....laughing at me.....saying....you thought you were going to get me to stand still. In reality he wasn't really laughing....but it was definitely my thinking that made me think that was what he was doing because in reality, I was laughing myself while rerunning the picture in my mind of what just happened.

Also, I have found over my 59 years of life that I am better off when I can do what I did with the horse.....replay what happened in my mind & see the humor in it rather than taking everything so very personally when in fact, there is Nothing really personal in it most of the time.......that is why placing things in their proper perspective is so very important & it makes life so much happier & easier to deal with in the long run.

Again, I don't believe I am perfect, and I know all the things you talked about. It's just

AT THAT TIME.

"Being oversensitive about how you are & placing the responsibility on others to be sensitive about how sensitive YOU ARE is s..."

"has created your extreme sensitivity to laughing"

On all of the posts, you keep ignoring the fact that I dislike your choice of words, Im asking you specifically please don't post anymore. Why do you ignore me that is very irritating to me. I don't need any of that, so I don't want to see you post on my thread again, even tho your intention may be different, I'm sorry but I don't need any of your words, I'm sorry we don't get along, IT HAPPENS. so PM next time you want to post on my threads. LAST TIME I"M ASKING~

that was it, I'm over it, I just needed someone to console me AT THAT TIME, but it's over now.

I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand I understand x 1000. It was THAT TIME ONLY though does anybody understand? (thanks for some people though) I have a thick skin, but I admit I do go crazy once in a while like yesterday, and I'm sure everyone does too. Maybe we are going crazy at the same time that's why you keep on insisting... sometimes it is better to back off. food for thought. People can relapse - I'm sure through all the experiences you just wrote you should understand...

THANK YOU though! I'm in a much better mood now, and I see how much advice you are trying to give me.

Hmmm I don't like being in a spotlight so i can relate to what you are saying.

I kind of wonder if your classmate was just trying to get you to come out of your shell though and didn't contain any kind of malicious intent.

But try reading this

http://www.excelatlife.com/articles/crazy-makers2.htm

And there is also an article on there about mean people...


The key is not to let what others do and say marinate in your brain. It will do you no good to dwell and it wont change the way the other person acts towards you. The best thing you can do is not to react to this person...because thats what they want and if you give them what they want they will keep doing it...

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I've always hated being in the spotlight too. I can relate. In fifth grade I was trying to do a presentation and my teacher said she could actually hear my knees knocking. I worked with the public a lot in retail and fast food before I found a job in my field, and it could be nerve wracking. That's why I got a job in science where I can do my stuff by myself. But I do relate to how you feel.

I remember when I was in college. I was the youngest in the class. This was before I had been officially diagnosed with all my disorders. I was very uncomfortable in class and I was trying to hide my anxiety every day I had to attend. It was very difficult for me. I remember being called up to the board on several occasions, usually to solve math problems. They weren't hard for me, but just being in front of the whole class of about 30 people made me have massive blanking moments. I would start sweating uncontrollably and shaking. Having panic attacks. I would just freeze while standing in front of everyone. Feeling like I was going to die.

After a few times of this happening, I remember going up to the professor and telling him. "I have social anxiety, it makes me extremely uncomfortable to be the center of attention, please do not call on me to come up to the board. I can do the work just fine, I just do not wish to stand in front of everyone to prove that."

He laughed at me and told me that it was a nice try but everyone had to participate. I was just shocked. From then on out, I refused to come up to the board when asked, sometimes just walking out. The final for the class required a presentation in front of everyone. I remember him singling me out when talking about it, saying things like "You can't expect to get out of this one ____." They used to make jokes at my expense a lot, when it came to speaking to the class.

I got very good grades in school, but I dropped out due to all the anxiety. I just couldn't handle it.