[Lonely_Wolf]

This is my first year at boarding school, I came in September. I made many friends aka people who are nice to me but I never made any close friends. So I have no one to go to events e.g Christmas dinner or trips with. At the beggining I kept hanging out with these girls from another house and about November they didn't want to go to dinner and breakfast with me. It was very late as everyone in my house already formed friendships and I was completely left out. Everyday I have to find someone to go to dinner with because I can never go with the same people. I get along with everyone in house but O have no one to talk to but my mother. And everytime I talk to her I cry because I'm homesick. But I'm starting to think that I am just depressed that I can't go home and study in peace without needing friends and planning who I go to lunch with. I cry every night and listen to songs in my language and I was perfectly fine when I first came here, yet when I came back after a the Christmas holidays O just couldn't cope and I feel like it's affecting my studying.

[Perna]

I am so sorry you are so lonely still. Are there other students from your country or other foreign students who might be having a similar problem? I would go alone a couple times, just look around and see who is with whom and if I might be able to join (rather than necessarily "go with" others. How about in classes, do you talk to anyone in any classes, can you make a friend or two there with talking about a subject? You may have to let people know you are lonely, it could be no one has noticed since they don't have that problem themselves at the moment and you seem to find people to eat with, etc.? Can you go a little early and see if anyone joins you at the table you are at, etc.?

[Lonely_Wolf]

Originally Posted by Perna

I am so sorry you are so lonely still. Are there other students from your country or other foreign students who might be having a similar problem? I would go alone a couple times, just look around and see who is with whom and if I might be able to join (rather than necessarily "go with" others. How about in classes, do you talk to anyone in any classes, can you make a friend or two there with talking about a subject? You may have to let people know you are lonely, it could be no one has noticed since they don't have that problem themselves at the moment and you seem to find people to eat with, etc.? Can you go a little early and see if anyone joins you at the table you are at, etc.?

Thank you for your reply but I feel like no one onows that I am lonely and I haven't joined any groups of people. I'm certainly not new here as I've been here for 4 months. I do talk to people In class but they are just not interested in me, no one is. I hang around with a girl from my country but she has her own group and I am worried that I annoy her even though she doesn't say so and is very nice.

[Travelinglady]

I'm sorry. I'm actually glad I didn't get sent to a boarding school, although it does offer some benefits.

It could be that people have already sort of teamed up by now, but are there some groups such as social clubs or interest clubs you can get involved in? Maybe a chess club or something like that? Maybe you can meet some new people that way.

[splitinfiniti]

Hey Hun, Does your school have a student website? maybe one with a forum or a chat room? maybe even a Facebook page you could join? The reason i ask is you may be able to find other girls that have no one to go out with or hang out with that are just sitting in their rooms online. Make some connections that way then branch out into a coffee meet up or a study group if they happen to be in the same classes.