I'm seriously considering dropping out of school. I can't stand the constant bullying. I want to be a doctor, so I know I can't quit. It's just becoming so hard to go to school everyday and be in the same class as those people. Should I consider homeschool? A reason I want to stay here is because I'm at the top of my class and I'm looking at valedictorian. What should I do? I could really use the scholarship money because my parents have 5 kids to put through college.


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[borncatastrophe77]

It would be so easy for me to say, be strong and do your best to ignore those jerks who are bullying you. Don't let them take your power you have over your life. When you're a great doctor with a great life they Will all be sitting around wondering what went wrong with their lives and wishing they had of been nicer to people around them.

It's easy to say, hard to do, I know. I feel for you sincerely because I know how mean and heartless people can be.

Have you though about going to see your guidance counselor in school to tell her/him what's going on and maybe they can put you into another class. You should let some adult that you trust in the school. They can't let a student be bullied.
Please do your best to keep in mind that THEY are the jerks for the way they treat you, for what kind of people they are.

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My school's pretty small, I don't have a school counselor. I try to stay positive, but it's pretty hard to when there are people constantly tearing you down.

[borncatastrophe77]

What about the principal or assistant principal. There has to be sone there with 1/2 a heart. Smh....
Talk to them and let them know your really having a hard time dealing with the stress of other people's behavior towards you.

As a mom, if one of my kids were being bullied it would be time to send a big sibling into protect mode or for me to gohave a phone call with some one at that school. Do your parents know that this is going on ? If so, what is their position on this ?

[Perna]

I would work hard as you're doing, trying to keep your eyes on your goals rather than worry about what other people are doing or saying about you or your goals; that's their stuff, they sound jealous or insecure because you are doing so well. There will always be people trying to tear other people down to their level and unless that interests you (I was a sociology major in college :-) then just ignore them. Don't spend the time thinking about what they're saying or doing, you have your hands full trying to be the best you can be and get what you want out of life.

[pudica]

no don't drop out.
it's not worth making your future more difficult just because of what the bullies do now.
tune them out. if they really do something violent report them.

[Stronger]

My freshman year I was determined to drop out, but then a very wise young woman convinced me not to...and I am so so very glad that she did.
I understand. I was bullied as well. It's one of the hardest things to deal with on top of the stress of school and life and everything else. One of the things that helped me is realizing that they are only stepping on you because inside they are incredibly insecure themselves. Try being genuinely nice to them, or if it's a group of kids (which it usually is), they are more vulnerable alone. So find one of them when he/she is not with "the pack" and talk to him/her, or give him/her a note. It could be a serious note saying something like "___ is what I'm going through right now, please stop" or a humorous note with something like "I know you think I'm an amazing person, but there are other ways to show it other than making me want to cry everyday"
A lot of times bullies have absolutely NO IDEA the kind of feelings they are causing in their victim. They just like the way it makes them feel powerful and "look cool". Thats all. So why not tell them. But do it one-on-one with just one of them.
And most importantly...DO NOT, my dear, do not let them steal your life. You can do this! Don't give up, stay strong my friend. I believe in you!

Since you're up for valedictorian does that mean you're a senior? Half a year left? Even if a junior focus changes in senior year to looking at colleges and looking forward. You might not have the same issues in senior year. If you can get through the next 4 months.... Fantastic job keeping up your grades despite the bullying.

It's been a long time but... Do they still allow high achievers to take some college classes? Might be a way to get off campus for a while each week.

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[Disha]

Hi,

I'm new to this community, so far I'm not allowed to post links. I found a very useful article on Cracked.com, it's entitled "5 Life Lessons You Learn From Being Bullied". See if you can read it. You seem to be a brilliant student on your way to the good things in life, please don't let this get to you.

Strength to you.

[pinkbutterfly]

You are obviously intelligent...you have a future. And a bright one.
Being bullied is absolutely horrible. I wish I could come there and protect you from that.
I was never in the "in" crowd in high school. I was never really in ANY crowd. I had a couple of friends and focused on academics, but I did not experience bullying, so I don't really have a full understanding of how much it hurts...but I have some experiences of rejection...and boy does that hurt.

Let me tell you...college can be SO much different than high school. Obviously it depends on where you go and the focus of the school.

What do you want to study in college? There are groups for everything there...people you will find to fit in with. If you're interested in math and science, you will find others who are as well. If you are interested in arts - you will find others. There are so many opportunities for the future. Just hang on. You can make it through.

Do you have a teacher that you feel close to? Someone you can confide in there (in authority) about the bullying? Or another adult in your life if your parents won't listen? A youth group leader or pastor? A friend's parents? A counselor?

edited to add: You mentioned wanting to be a doctor...that's an awesome aspiration. and you can do it...don't let the bullies take you down.

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm only a sophomore but I'm at the top of my class. There's really not that much competition. I don't feel like I have anyone I trust talking to.

Originally Posted by Kayaychoh

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm only a sophomore but I'm at the top of my class. There's really not that much competition. I don't feel like I have anyone I trust talking to.

Maybe start googling for hs high achiever programs. As an A student you may be underestimating the amount of support you could get from your teachers. You could try approaching it from the standpoint of challenging yourself to do more and explain the bully situation as you feel more comfortable.

Good luck!

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