[quietguy17]

Its been a year since i joined a new highschool. Still i dont have friends. I mean there are people who just know me. I do talk with some classmates alot online, but they dont talk to me at school. Im always left alone. Nobody hangouts with me, im an introvert, its hard to just start conversations out of nowhere. I have nothing to say to people. But i do want to be treated the same as others. I wanna have fun too. I ditch class parties and extra activities at school cuz i feel so unwanted, so i find it more happy to stay at home than going there and feel anxious. I really dont want to go to school but i have to, since i work for a goal. Im good in studies. So what do i do?

[mike4july1972]

Originally Posted by quietguy17

Its been a year since i joined a new highschool. Still i dont have friends. I mean there are people who just know me. I do talk with some classmates alot online, but they dont talk to me at school. Im always left alone. Nobody hangouts with me, im an introvert, its hard to just start conversations out of nowhere. I have nothing to say to people. But i do want to be treated the same as others. I wanna have fun too. I ditch class parties and extra activities at school cuz i feel so unwanted, so i find it more happy to stay at home than going there and feel anxious. I really dont want to go to school but i have to, since i work for a goal. Im good in studies. So what do i do?

There are many people who want to be your friends, especially, if you are good at studies. I will try to be your friend, if you want. My niece lives in Michigan, USA, she is the same age as you, you can try to become her friend. There are 7 billion people on Earth; the probability of finding enough friends among them is very large. I teach school students and university students in Indonesia, I have friends in the USA, Australia, Europe, New Zealand, Asia; I can introduce you to them, if you want.

[quietguy17]

Originally Posted by mike4july1972

There are many people who want to be your friends, especially, if you are good at studies. I will try to be your friend, if you want. My niece lives in Michigan, USA, she is the same age as you, you can try to become her friend. There are 7 billion people on Earth; the probability of finding enough friends among them is very large. I teach school students and university students in Indonesia, I have friends in the USA, Australia, Europe, New Zealand, Asia; I can introduce you to them, if you want.

Thank you and i'd really love that.

[mike4july1972]

Originally Posted by quietguy17

Thank you and i'd really love that.

I will give you the contacts of my friends, if I am allowed to post the links here; otherwise, you can find them yourself. You have my nickname and my real name is Michael Marchenko.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by quietguy17

I ditch class parties and extra activities at school cuz i feel so unwanted

You say you talk to people online so you have to "continue" to talk to those people in person. Go over and join those people and, if you are familiar with their online posts, talk about something they have mentioned online recently. You cannot get friends if you do not show up/stay and try to make them. Other people are trying to make friends too and uncomfortable about meeting new people, etc. If they have been at the school longer or know people from before, etc. that does make hanging out easier for them. Do something like ask to borrow the notes of someone you sit near in one of your classes, strike up a conversation about the class. You need things in common and the school work is a good first place to start. Indirectly address small groups of people, "Did anyone get problem #4, I spent half an hour on it and still don't understand. . ." you are among before class or if you see a small group at lunch or somewhere that several of are in the same class with you. You or they get talking and the other people you don't know chime in and soon you know the people you don't know

How do you get names/make friends online? If you ever ask someone in person for their online name/address, take the conversation a little further by complementing or asking them about something you know about them ("Hey, I heard about that UMG tournament you were in. . ." and discuss it and see if anything comes of that (an invite to come over or meet somewhere, etc.).

Get off line and get involved IN school. Join some fairly active organizations that are service-oriented like student council, honor society, various interest groups/clubs. Find the like-minded people in your school and start joining in. If you aren't involved with them, they are not going to seek you out. You have to be involved consistently AND actively on a regular basis. Until you go that mile, you will continue to be on the outside of things.

Hi, quietguy. I think you need to take up some hobbies and then find others who share the same interests. I am very glad to hear that you are a good student - keep it up and it will pay off in the long run.

As for the new high school, it does not sound like a good fit for you. Are there other schools you could attend? I take it that you have a presentable appearance and haircut as well as good hygiene. It's important to learn to smile and to make eye contact when talking with people. Ask them about themselves - people love to talk about themselves. It will also take some of the focus off of you and your insecurities. Consider getting a part-time job. The extra spending money will help socially, you can invest in your new hobby (or existing ones) and use the funds for a nice haircut or sneakers. Jobs are also a good way of meeting people; co-workers often make excellent friends.

Is there a school counselor you could talk to? Take advantage of their availability while you can. You never know what you might learn from them.