I'm not college material.

I need to accept that I'm not college material. I can't work and go to school and study 3-4 different subjects at once. I am falling behind in class because I can't manage my time properly and I struggle to learn this much information at once. I am trying to learn how to do better and stabilize but it might be too late for me to recover.

It didn't help the fact that I had a death in the family and I have been moving into a new apartment for the last month. I am struggling to cope with everything that I'm dealing with.

And now I am having foot pain on top of it all because I've been having to walk everywhere and I have flat feet and my shoes suck.

I am trying so hard but I might just need to accept that I don't belong at college. I am going to try one more semester but I might end up becoming a drop out because I can't study and learn as quick as they want me to.

I can't cope. I can't function in a normal college environment. I had to be pulled out of high school because I was considered too emotionally unstable to even function in special ed. I need to accept the fact that history repeats itself and some things can't be changed.

good luck for you, dude

Sometimes I feel that way.. but If you truly want the education I believe you can obtain it even if it takes years longer than planned. You could take 1 or 2 classes at a time

Hi friend,

I'm sorry you feel that way :/
School can be HARD and really sucky sometimes.

Have you thought about taking less classes? That's what I've had to do. If getting your degree is really important to you, there is no shame in taking longer to get it.
If it's not all that important to you, there is also no shame in choosing a different path. Everyone is different.

I hope you don't feel like you are doomed to repeat the past.

As someone smart once said:
If you change nothing, nothing will change.

So I hope you can find what is right for you.
Keep pushing forward, my friend.

Good luck!

Hey there! I'm sorry you're struggling with college so much. It can be difficult if you have a lot of different obligations, like you do.

I would suggest going part-time. Even if you can take one class a semester, then that's perfectly fine! You're right. Not everyone has an easy time in college and that's okay, but I would still give it one more shot. If you have to take a break, do so. You're going through a lot (I'm very sorry about your loss) and you might just need a break.

I wish you all the very best.

You are overwhelmed, I believe. I advise you to go part-time also and try to do as well as possible. I can't imagine how it is to go full-time and also work because I never worked during college. Some students don't work and just focus on academics. I did well in college but it is nothing to brag about because I never worked while in college. My point is you seem capable of doing college but have too many responsibilities and are overwhelmed. Although going part-time may take more time, if you do well academically, this will boost your confidence and help motivate you to continue. Best wishes!!

Here's a suggestion: Go to your campus disability services office and have them help you. They work with anxiety disorders, all types of disorders actually, which translates into getting more testing time and being in a private room to do so as well as many other helpful tools.

Working while going to school is very difficult. You've already recognized that your ability to concentrate works better with less classes, so that's a good start in meeting your unmet need. Let's hear it for the brain in letting you know that! Also, online classes might be more calming to your brain circuitry, too. Please explore your options before declaring yourself noncollege material.

It does depend on what you'd like to do to earn money. Sometimes college is not necessary. If it is, then I agree that maybe fewer courses at a time could work.

Well your right, some things don't change.. if you keep doing things the same way, that is. Sounds like you need to take a different approach to learning. Less classes is one option. If not, then a mix of in class and online can help (thats what I did) because I had less physical classes I had to actually go to and the online classes were a better pace. Working while in school when you already have some learning limitations is an issue. It would be best to try to find a way to ease the load on you in one of the areas of work or school without having to just quit. I hope you can get a set up that works better for your needs next semester.

Perhaps you should maybe take a break for a bit? There is no shame in taking your time. If Ihad it to do all over again, I would have taken a year off after HS and just worked and had fun with my friends like I wanted to but my rigid parents wouldn't hear of such "subversive"
ideas....

You’ve said a lot here—I want to say first, that a death in family, if you’re grieving or otherwise affected, is going to influence your thinking. Generally what you’re heard about not making decisions in this state is true. Except that life has to be attended to. That’s the hard part

Life doesn’t have to follow the path everyone else seems to take. Like other posters have said—you can take one class at a time. You may be able to get a hardship withdrawal if you need it (my daughter was able to do this). It’s for physical/mental or extenuating circumstances.

FYI - my late husband took 14 years to finish college. When he graduated, one of the top tech co. hired him. It didn’t hurt his prospects to go slowly. He even took a semester off.

You describe several circumstances that will affect your academic performance negatively.

I have been on 6 different schools. I failed 4 times. I gave up for almost a decade. Then I succeeded. I can't really explain why. Now, I might be an extraordinary case, both positively and negatively,

What if you have no negative distractions and what if your academic programme is manageable?

That said, some people indeed aren't college material. And being convinced of that yourself also doesn't help. So I do not know what is the best in your case. But for sure important things are making sure your life is set up so you can succeed academically, and having the mindset where you believe you succeed,