[lemon80s]

Hi folks,

I just posted this in psychotherapy realizing this is a much better place for it!

I am just thinking about something today. I had an okay 2nd session with my T where I sort of told my life story. We glossed over it and what just keeps playing in my head is her saying how -alone- I have been and am in life. Not lonely mind you, but alone.

I deal with this fine since my emotions are sorta foggy (will work on that) but I just keep thinking about this. It is very true, and I don't really see this as a problem. But trying to ponder where to go eventually in making myself a wholesome and healthy person I just can't help but wonder:

Can I ever care enough about myself to not need some one else to care about me? I mean - I can't control the world around me. Since I don't have a caring family the only hope is I someday meet a nice Significant Other that cares about me. But in the meantime, myself is all I got. Will that be enough? I am doing fine right now. But I'm pretty sure that when I get to feel my feelings I'll feel some sort of loneliness and I just wanna know if self-care will be enough to combat that.

Love to hear similar stories and how it turned out for you!

Hugs
lemon

Edit: I do have friends, but since I am kind of closed off time will have to tell if those relations will ever be 'real' enough to provide the sense of caring I am talking about here.

[beauflow]

I can't control the world around me. Since I don't have a caring family the only hope is I someday meet a nice Significant Other that cares about me.

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Very true that we can't control the world around us, only ourselves.

Sorry I am picking this out but just a thought--- even if you have a s/o that cares for you, if you still don't self care for yourself, it is not like a s/o will fill that which is still needed from you for you.

Does that make sense?

I have a s/o, he is wonderful, and he is nice and kind, he has been a real plus for me in my life especially where from once i came, however---- I have still went through bouts of "I am meant to be alone, I am a lone", as well as Self Caring for me still needs to come from me even though he does care for me.
He can stick by me, encourage me, and love me... but that self care for myself I have to do myself.

Hope that makes sense, sorry it is a bit simplistic. I still am journeying on this-- hopefully others can hop on with better stronger stories of them

[CharactorAssassin]

No we cannot self care enough because everyone is a critic these days. Its whats good for you.

[luvinglife2012]

I believe self-caring is our priority. Please don't stop.