[Reach HI]

I have ideas of what I'd like to do, but I don't have the motivation to start or keep up with hobbies or goals. I feel like a failure when I quit! I quit everything I start.

I do not feel important, I have nothing important to say, and I have nothing important to contribute to anyone or anything. I frustrate people around me and there is no one who is interested in ME... I'm a boring person that no one enjoys being around. At one time, my son thought I was the greatest, but now he's a teen and even he thinks I'm crazy and boring. lol. I need to find things that make me feel good, but I'm beginning to think that it's all just stupid.. There's nothing that will make me feel good because first off I feel like a failure to myself and everyone around me.... This is where the lack of motivation begins. I love traveling and I enjoy helping the elderly, but I don't want to go alone....

My boyfriend only likes me for a movie partner and support for our business. I'm his sounding board for negative emotions and I feel trapped in his world. He's into work, surf, and drinking... If I cannot think of something to do together that he would enjoy, he'll opt to go do his own thing. I feel alone and even my boyfriend is with me only for convenience.

I'm tired of feeling second to everyone else's needs and wants... But, don't know how to make the changes for myself. I'm smart enough to know that it's really just my own emotional/mental problem, but I just can't figure out how to change these feelings and behaviors.

Any thoughts? Ideas? Strategies?

[hvert]

Start small. Pick out something that will be a step towards a positive improvement in your life, something that takes about five minutes to accomplish, and do it. These small successes really build up your confidence and can lead to much bigger changes.

Going from no motivation to action can be really hard. I hope you have good luck with it! It sounds like you feel sort of isolated, so maybe spending five minutes looking into a class or volunteer position would be a good start?

[Reach HI]

Originally Posted by hvert

Start small. Pick out something that will be a step towards a positive improvement in your life, something that takes about five minutes to accomplish, and do it. These small successes really build up your confidence and can lead to much bigger changes.

Going from no motivation to action can be really hard. I hope you have good luck with it! It sounds like you feel sort of isolated, so maybe spending five minutes looking into a class or volunteer position would be a good start?

Thank you for the positive solution oriented advice. I came here hoping to find an ear and support and in your words, I find a little relief... I will start working on 5 minute goals starting today.. I have not thought of that! I'll let you know how that goes and where it leads. Thank you!

[hvert]

Keep us posted! It can be so hard to do the things we know we should be doing to make ourselves happy, can't it?? I started with the five minute stuff (I even set a timer) to get back into the swing of things a few months ago and it's definitely working for me.

[yourinnerworld]

You sound just the way i did years ago and it took some time to find my place in the world too.

What helped me was actually sitting down and asking myself "what do I really want?" sounds like a simple question but it may be harder to answer than you think.

I agree with hvert "Going from no motivation to action can be really hard" but small steps does help build a positive attitude to attract want you want.