[Yoda]

I used to have that problem too. I was always two or three minutes late to work. My manager said you always make it here just barely late, why can't you get here two minutes earlier?

One thing that helps me is laying my clothes out the night before so I don't have to waste valuable time deciding what to wear or looking for clean socks, et cetera.

[hvert]

Can you identify what is causing it? Like you suddenly remember that you need to do X before you leave? Or you spend 20 minutes on your hair or trying to find your keys?

[Perna]

For me, the youngest in a large family (5 kids) it could be hard to get attention of any sort? I had to learn to talk to loud, walk and eat too fast (I still have that problem with friends yelling at me to slow down :-) so some of my habits help me get the spotlight (who knows what for :-) or are just habits I picked up over the years and don't remember where they came from. Do you want to be with your family particularly? It does not sound like they are very kind to you? I'd be unconsciously avoiding by being late, putting off being where I don't want to be I guess you have to decide you "want" to be where you are going and consciously take responsibility for getting there on time?

[Stronger]

Yep. I know what that's like. I'm so sorry that your parents yell at you because of it though...that is not right.
What helps me is to pretend like you have to be somewhere 10 minutes earlier than you actually do. Like they tell you to be somewhere at 8:30 but you just pretend that they said 8:20 instead.
Also, the time that you have to leave for something, give yourself a few extra minutes to get out the door. For example, to be at school on time I need to leave at 7:40. But I always tell myself that I need to be out the door by 7:30, and that if I leave at 7:35, I'll be late. I definitely helps. Because it always takes more time than anticipated to get out the door.

Hope that helps some!

[Darkanddesolate]

For a while my clock was ten minutes fast and I would try to get ready ten minutes earlier but that actually never worked out because I'd always tell myself that in reality it was ten minutes earlier than what my clock said so I had plenty more time... Still ended up late

💀🌊⚡️

[Perna]

I use to do the clock thing in the shower; otherwise I'd sit in there all morning lost in day dreams and be really late for work (love sitting in the bathtub with the warm shower raining down on me). So, I got a kitchen timer but I still kept sitting there and was always late :-)

I would try turning the clock to the wall so you don't know what time it is? She if you can use your anxiety for something good? LOL I'd set it to go off when I had to get up and figure out how to turn it off from the back but then not look at the time, just "sense" it passing too fast or whatever.

[hvert]

What about a checklist? I've found that waking up with only enough time to do exactly what I need to do helps. If I get up early and have extra time to start a project or something that's not part of my routine, I'm more likely to be late.

[ladytiger]

i have this problem with my boyfriend. when we first met, he used to be on time all the time. he is so in love with the computer, has ruined his own sleep patterns, stayed up way too much without any sleep (he is now 34) and doesn't get why i am always so mad at him. he agrees at a certain time to meet and i am waiting hours on end then has the nerve to be mad at me for leaving wtf?!? excuse me? i can't be mad at you cuz i waited 8 hrs for you??

my ex therapist told me some people are just chronically late and i laughed. i told her don't tell my bf's dad that he would hit the roof saying you are just in agreement with my son's lack of time so he can keep doing it without any consequences. i said i am in agreement with him i can't understand how someone can be so chronically late it's no wonder they don't keep jobs. i told her i never had friends like this they were never chronically late, speaking of which, that's how you lose friends and relationships for being so chronically late all the time. i have heard enough stories of people losing friendships/relationships.

i have been late but never a chronic issue as i make it a priority to be punctual. i am late once in a blue moon and nobody has a problem with my time issues. i told my bf we have what they call clocks and watches there's no excuse why you can't look at it and realize you gotta meet me somewhere

[Nightworld1066]

I would set your alarm earlier that way you don't miss it and set regular alarms on your mobile to remind you of apts

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatabbrdf

V
M. Md

[Pierro]

being late is a habit. Do what you can the night before to help yourself. Set your clock earlier. I know how it feels to be so tired, but get as much rest as you can the night before
Best wishes