How to get my drive back

I seem to have entered a new chapter in life and I am a little confused on how to deal with the new challenges.

All my life I was trying to get to a place where I can be happy or at least pain-less. Escape the abusive household where I grew up, overcome my phobias, anxiety, depression, then I got together with a man who continuously made me feel like I'm not enough and I tried to prove him wrong for a very long time. I was constrantly battling to feel worthy or just not have the pain of feeling fatally flawed. It was ugly, but I was so driven! I had so much motivation, achieved so much, got so much better in just a couple of years!

But then I did get better. I feel positively happy most days now. Sometimes the past comes to haunt me, but it's getting increasingly rare while I can deal with it better and better and I think it needs just a bit more time to settle. I have a fantastic boyfriend, great friends, I'm learning from books, learning a new language, I have my crafty hobbies, everything just feels so calm and mellow. There are problems in my life, but they don't threaten my self-worth, I don't feel that desperate need to change things, so I'm not really motivated to do anything. A couple of months ago I lost my job, I just shrugged and found a small part-time thing that pays the bills and allows me to feed myself, more or less. I strangely find am not bothered by that. I can't imagine myself living like this for years, but I just don't feel the burning need to change it, like I got used to. But without the drive, the daily struggle, my life is becoming so boring. I'm missing out on stuff, I'm not moving anywhere. I miss being able/willing to achieve things just by sheer determination even if it felt like I'm falling apart in the process.

What other things besides pain can I use to run on? I do have ideals, values, but they're mostly sort of wishy-washy slow moving things that don't really prompt me into action.

With the things you are missing out on, are there small steps you can take to achieve them?

What you are describing sounds like what I experienced with burn out. It helps to introduce some novelty into your life-it really does help to look for something new to experience, even in the smallest ways. Taking a different route to work or school or shopping, trying a new food, things that involve your senses. It made me feel more interested and gave me a little more energy.

Maybe you need a hobby. Hobbies can be enjoyable and make you feel good.

Do you get out to interact with friends much? I enjoy being solitary most of the time and don't get lonely but sometimes I go out with a singles group just to enjoy other peoples company. Maybe you could take a cooking class and meet people or a photo club or whatever interests you. Or perhaps you could do some volunteer work. Nursing homes are full of lonely people who would enjoy your company for a few hours each week.

Do you like animals? I am looking to get a cat. They are good company as are dogs. Even birds can be fun or a hamster or such if you like animals.