Don't know how to get started....

i want to lose 30 lbs this year. I gained it all in 5 months about 2 years ago. (Had a lot go on those few years before that.) I have 140 total to lose. (69 down so far)

I want to have friends and a long term partner but right now I need to work on my self esteem and find ways of trusting others again. After some issues I had to deal with (above) I lost trust in people and feel really crappy. Also, I feel like I don't deserve much anymore. I want to change that. I just don't care to meet new people anymore. It'll never work.

I need to get a job and my permit but I Don't' have a car and cars are expensive. So it's catch 22 for that.

to be honest, I wish I had it all together. I wish that i knew what i wanted and could go out and do it. I can't do that. After therapy ended abruptly I felt like i couldn't reach my goals. I don't believe in myself and have run through with what i want to change so much that i don't believe in any goals i set. I just don't want to lose weight, meet people and do all that crap. I don't know how to change that. i need to move on. I want to feel accomplished. I get overwhelmed setting goals and the steps it takes to reach it. I don't believe in my ability to reach my goals now. I don't know how to begin doing so though.

I can't afford therapy again, please don't suggest it. Going to counseling before finishing college didn't help either. She just made me do things and I don't feel like I ever got any results from it (no job, etc.) And what if I do reach my goals and don't feel satisfied? That's a fear I have.

I hope you can help me I could sure use it

Wow, congrats on losing so much weight already!!!!!! I want to lose 30-40 lbs too.

It's hard, I feel the same way. I have a lot of things I'd like to do, but it's hard to find the motivation to do them. I am trying to take baby steps. A few minutes of exercise. Do the dishes before I fool around online.

Thanks!! It is really hard

It is hard!! But you have made some impressive progress I have trouble getting started too. I tend to overthink things. The best thing for me anyway is to get moving on anything and then the little accomplisments will give you more energy to keep going. Good luck to you!

Thank you I try to do little goals each day but it's hard. I give up and then beat myself up for messing up and quitting.

You don't need a car, you need to figure out the local transit system, or locate yourself near a good transit system in your area. Bikes are affordable, and great exercise. Save a few hundred buy a good bike, keep it maintained, busses usually have bike racks in the front.

I don't have a bus near me. don't know how to ride a bike. I have disabled person ride but they are not all that reliable and expensive. so yes, i do need a car. nobody wants me if i don't have a car.

You know what? You will be excellent with time. Be patient, believe in yourself and don't give up.

I've read your posts lately and they're mostly positive. Keep trying.

That idea about the car is not true...

Thanks. I feel like I annoy everybody lol.

Sounds to me like you're on the right track! Keep going because you will get there if you don't give up. You only fall when you stop trying in my opinion. Can you join a weightloss group in your town - like at a health center or clinic? Could be a way of meeting people...

no. I don't have anything that's affordable and near me.

A good soundtrack helps me !!