Chronical motivation problem.. Need advice

Dear readers,

There is something that is bothering for a very very long time which I have to share on this forum, I hope I found the adequate section to post this...

Since I was little I always have been apathic. I never wanted to help or do chores at home. I always lived in my own bubble. I never paid attention to anything unless it was important Or if I would get something in return. I am 25 years now and I have still this problem. I do have to admit that I've been a brat sometimes but I have always been educated and raised correctly. My parents just did not know why I did not have any motivation. I found it still hard to find motivation in doing anything, except for my career or things that I like. I am easily bored and can't find inner peace in doing anything. I prefer to live in my own bubble. Is ought help for this but it didn't work because I was afraid to admit it. Now that I see my cousins with 10 years having an adult attitude, I feel ashamed of myself.

Does someone has any suggestions? Thanks in advance

Kind regards,

I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I just replied to your post in the new members introductions forum as well. I'm not a mental health professional. But this just all sounds to me like the effects of depression. And it sounds similar to my own experiences growing up & as a young adult.

I don't know anything really about child psychology & what causes a child to grow up depressed. But I know it can happen because it happened to me. As I mentioned in my reply to your other post, there are a number of things I could point to as possible contributing factors. But it was all so long ago it's difficult to know now. Plus, unfortunately, I grew up at a time & in a place where little was understood regarding mental health & such things were simply not taken into consideration or talked about.

You wrote you sought help but it didn't work because you were afraid to admit what you're struggling with. I think the thing I would like to suggest is that, perhaps, you might consider trying again. I know it can be difficult. But talking all of this through with a skilled therapist might make a real difference for you. This sort of opportunity simply didn't exist when I was young. We just had to suck it up do what we could. Too often it didn't go well. (At least it didn't in my case.) You have the opportunity to take a different path. I hope you do.

I gave you links to some articles on depression, as well as on letting go of the past, in my reply to your other post. Here are links to 4 other articles that talk about alternative treatments for depression:

Alternative Treatments for Depression

Holistic Treatments For Depression | M(ill)ennial: A Perspective on Mental Illness

What Helps Depression Beyond Therapy and Medication

7 More Ways to Manage Depression Beyond Therapy and Medication

My best wishes to you...