[Littlefish]

I m reading an inner bonding courses and trying to talk to my inner child, but it is really so hard and painful, I have to stop many times, still not do it successfully... r there any good ways for it?

And I remember I read a thread last year on this site on the same topic, but failed to find it again. Anyone knows it?

[youOme]

ooh, wish could help you there. I should consider connecting with my inner child myself, I'm sure I could benefit. I think that's where a lot of anger and resentment stems from if ones childhood wasn't good. I hope you will find your way and reach your goal...good luck with that.

[(JD)]

Here is one link I found. http://tinyurl.com/39tgbl

I'll keep searching for you.

Mainly though, I would say talking with your inner child is like talking to any child you may meet and wish to tell things. It's even better in some ways, because you might know some of the history of your inner child, whereas another might be a total stranger.

Of course, with the DID you need to remember that one of the key issues is safety. All of you needs to hear how safe you are... whenever and wherever you feel safe. That in such and such circumstances, it's also safe to talk. (This has to be based upon your own understandings... safe here at PC, at T's only?)

You can do things with your inner child, for your inner child...and we ALL do this! (Singletons have an inner child too...but we have continuity of communication and understanding what we're doing all the time.) Walt Disney knew and understood the inner child in all of us

So what are some things children need to hear? That they are safe, they're liked, they are a good person and not bad, that they can't have their way all the time but can have some things they ask for and such. Can you think of more?

[Perna]

Here are questions others taking the course asked about inner bonding; maybe they asked ones similar to what you want to know?

http://www.innerbonding.net/list-adv...r-bonding.html

but it is really so hard and painful

Littlefish, do you think it would help if you tapped into the happier times you had as a kid? (I know when you're in pain, you can't remember any but there were some)

Did you have a favorite toy/doll/game? Google it. Sometimes you can find it on ebay.

Google the years when you would have enjoyed playing the most, (even if you think you didn't) and see what "fads" there were, like clothes or the kind of bike everyone had to have or what the top ten songs were or TV shows you liked.

Sometimes that will spark "her" interest and maybe then you can start to get in touch with what you need to.

peroonia yuppers i love getting lost in the tv show characters i loved when i was little the toys that i could never let go
if anything else i appreciate the fact i found an escape

[Littlefish]

I only remembered that i liked to bury myself in grass when I was little, I even could stay in grass the whole day and sleeping there, this end up making myself sleeping a lot now too in the morning ,(I m hard to sleep at night)

I also read the innerbonding thread u gave , perna, I liked that site , but i m not a member yet cuz now i have no credit card on hand to pay that.....but i agree with that person too, If I only take care of inner child, who take care of the adult child? so both the children need growing always, i think.

I wll start to talk to the grass child inside, anyways.

[(JD)]

Here's a link to Dr Clay's online book www.psychologicalselfhelp.org/Chapter9/chap9_33.html and talking to inner child.

[Junerain]

How to nourish the little ones inside? www.forthelittleonesinside.com

[ibme]

Thank you for asking the question.

One thought lead to another and continued on and on. I hope I’ve not wandered off topic or written too much.

John Bradshaw did a PBS special “Bradshaw on Homecoming” and “Bradshaw on Family”. He used a mobile to demonstrate how each person in the family is affected.

After reading Chapter 1 of Dr. Clay’s book speaking about the ‘advice industry’ and having acquired many books through the years, I’m now content to slowly work with self-talk and see what I find within and what evolves day by day.

Dr. Clay’s Psychological Self Help book has a link with several entries for the topic inner child. http://psychologicalselfhelp.org/cgi...ms=inner+child

Decided to reference ego states from Dr. Clay’s book and again much to read
http://psychologicalselfhelp.org/cgi...rms=ego+states

Just Musing
Letting the inner child write with the non-dominate hand has been a technique used to facilitate recognition and respect to the inner child. Sometimes acknowledging how I’ve not been present for self has been revealed from this writing exercise. I’ve experienced that the inner child can want me to be more trustworthy in taking better care of the child within. Wanting me to be a safe person and be there to meet a long-standing need of respect. The question generated a memory of a long ago experience. Meeting present need–respect, love, and trust for the inner child and for this aging adult too.

R–E-S-P–E–C–T is a word that I’ve found helpful to make an acoustic of. I chose the word praying for the letter P. The words P-practice or P-proving came to mind as I thought of people who may have a negative connotation about the word praying. A book title comes to mind as I think of all the different people who read what is written on the forums. “The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse was a book I read in the same time frame as reading about the inner child. The methods of CBT, REBT, and the methods that are well explained in the Psychological Self Help book are good tools to use in helping me to care for the inner child and confront the issues of daily living. I need to seriously strive for balance gently and not take on too much.

I’m very thankful to have Dr. Clay’s book as a ready reference. Also, I am grateful for the forums and the caring people who share their thoughts, feelings, experiences, strengths and hopes. Reading shares (or posts) have been helpful in fanning hope.

Personally I find forming an acrostic to be revealing and helpful. So long as forming one is a spontaneous happening, I believe my inner self, whether the inner child or my spirit is helping me to help myself. Perhaps reading and writing is a way to allow my inner child or my spirit to help me to be more consciously aware in the present.

Sometimes so much can be derived from a word study or by forming an acrostic. Once when I was very upset and thinking, “I’m just earthy and gut level” I wrote my first acrostic and didn’t even know what an acrostic was.

An acrostic came into my thoughts automatically after reading a devotional on Respect forwarded in an email. I believe the inner child within me can be acknowledged and cared for by the applying the acrostic below.

R-real
E-everyday
S-support
P-praying
E-earnestly
C-caring
T- therapeutically.

Hopefully I have a focal point to help nurture the inner child and help the adult overcome creatively procrastinating time management in actively doing tasks respectfully and gently

for the topic. Hope I didn’t digress or write too much.

Gently Onwards
ibeme

[SeptemberMorn]

John Bradshaw was the man who coined the phrase "Inner Child." He's done extensive work on PBS and public speaking.

His book, "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child" is the book that started me on my road to recovery from an abusive childhood, teenage years and even into adulthood.

John Bradshaw, in the first chapter warns against doing the exercises in his book if there's any remote possibility of having been sexually abused as a child. I had absolutely NO CLUE that I had been when I read the book. I did the exercises but the sexual abuse did not surface until I was regressed by a therapist.

John Bradshaw helps you find your Inner Child, how to speak to him/her and especially, how to love and re-parent your Inner Child.

My own personal rating of the book is Five Stars, Two Thumbs Up, etc. If it hadn't been for this book, I wouldn't be as far as I am in my recovery. Can't say enough good things about it!

Here's an Interview with John Bradshaw. Enjoy!

[Junerain]

Thanks Septembermorn from what I read here.....

http://www.amazon.com/Homecoming-Rec...5630509&sr=8-1

this book is going to be my next read!!!!

[SeptemberMorn]

Alright! It sure made a real difference in my own healing.

Let me know how it goes, ok?