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Jun 17, 2009 at 01:17 PM
#21
just forget it.
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Jun 17, 2009 at 01:26 PM
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(((PUPP)))) It's obvious you are really overwhelmed and struggling. All those self harming behaviors you listed prove that... you don't really want to do those things...you really do want something to change your life though.
 You can't choose your family. Not sure I would want anyone else's though either. lol You aren't responsible for their actions or behavior, however stupid or ignorant it may be. You can begin to take control of your own responses though, and work to ease the impact of family pushing any buttons you may have. Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YES! You are not a horrible person because of what others suggest (if they do.) You are not unworthy just because... of anything! Self harming behavior is coping mechanisms pure and simple. When you find other ways to cope, healthy ways that you can find through CBT for example, then the self harming coping will lessen. From self harming to self caring. It can be done. I'm not putting you down here, only offering suggestions that when you are able to think and work on them, will help you, ok? Try eliminating the words that are negative such as "can't." Do thought stopping or countering out loud when they sneak into your mind or mouth.  Think about what you thought when you said "can't" (or other negative) and see if you can rephrase it. Saying "I can but I don't want to" will make a big difference over time. No, no one wants to live through bad experiences, but to say you can't puts you in the hole at the start. You deserve more.  You have great potential imo because you are working on it simply by posting here. Keep going! You're on the right path!__________________ |
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Jun 17, 2009 at 01:29 PM
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thanks sky...im sorry... i reach out for help.support then my walls snap up.
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Jun 17, 2009 at 02:12 PM
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No apologies necessary. I'm glad you were here when you reached out.
Glad I was here too.
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Jun 17, 2009 at 09:00 PM
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Pupp,
Ease up on yourself. Maybe it would help to cry some, but I know it is hard to let yourself cry sometimes. EJ
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Jun 18, 2009 at 07:40 AM
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When we are feeling vulnerable it is easy to take things the wrong way - we are here to support you pupp - I hope you have aT or can get one to help you too
__________________ Its not how many times you fall down that counts  its how many times you get back up!  (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture  )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Jun 18, 2009 at 08:32 AM
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Jun 18, 2009 at 11:20 AM
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alright... ill try...
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Jun 18, 2009 at 05:05 PM
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((((((cuddles for pupp))))))), if ok
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Jun 18, 2009 at 06:31 PM
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sort of... im unsure on hugs,... i want them...but dont feel safe enough... in bad place...
*curls up* sorry... thank you... i do want them though... just unsure right now...on so much going on...so muddled... |
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Jun 18, 2009 at 08:19 PM
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hey pupp i am struggling right as well very hard and i am not in a safe place. i just want to run from my life and never look back
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Jun 18, 2009 at 08:31 PM
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uh... ok...
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Jun 18, 2009 at 08:32 PM
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(((((Pupp)))))
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Jun 18, 2009 at 08:38 PM
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thanks manda...
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Jun 19, 2009 at 02:58 AM
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struggling...
feeling on the brink of something happening... something bad... though maybe good... maybe i deserve this... what the hell im so screwed up im sorry everyone here |
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Jun 19, 2009 at 10:00 AM
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How are you doing now? __________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 19, 2009 at 11:11 AM
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its not fear of intimacy.
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Jun 19, 2009 at 11:32 AM
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Jun 19, 2009 at 01:42 PM
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no.
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Jun 19, 2009 at 02:27 PM
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Okie dokie.........
__________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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