failure

Fuzzybear · Jul 16, 2009, 10:05 PM

...............

to express needs

to be allowed needs

to be treated with respect

to mend the broken connection inside

to communicate with those i need to communicate with

to throw the f******* blades away

idontknow13 · Jul 16, 2009, 10:34 PM

((((((Fuzzybear)))))

Rapunzel · Jul 16, 2009, 10:51 PM

((((((((( Fuzzy ))))))))))

You've saved up this list for a while. What successes have you had? Did you decide to do anything, and do it? Little things count. Like posting when you feel bad and need some support. See, you did something, and communicated effectively here. What else?

phoenix7 · Jul 17, 2009, 06:19 AM

you helped a triggery friend

you supported others by posting in their threads

you are a survivor

you have many friends here

that doesnt sound like a failure to me

Fuzzybear · Jul 17, 2009, 09:05 AM

thanks everyone

Rap, even 6 months ago I wouldnt even have been able to think of this list, let alone articulate it

Rapunzel · Jul 17, 2009, 09:43 AM

Sounds like progress to me! Yea, Fuzzy!

dance59326 · Jul 17, 2009, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

...............

to express needs

to be allowed needs

to be treated with respect

to mend the broken connection inside

to communicate with those i need to communicate with

to throw the f******* blades away

It's ok to talk here. We're always open to hear your needs
yes there are many things that are troubling you, but have you tried writing down lists for your topics:

1.) to express needs

2.) to be allowed needs

3.) to be treated with respect

4.) to mend the broken connection inside

5.) to communicate with those i need to communicate with

6.) to throw the f******* blades away

Sometines it's good to write down what you're feeling because you can freely express yourself without having to say it outloud.

Sending you the best wishes, stay strong and keep me posted

dance59326

susan888 · Jul 17, 2009, 12:27 PM

((((Fuzzy))))

phoenix7 · Jul 17, 2009, 05:30 PM

I remember when you could only put a hug - and now you are lisitng thing - thats HUGE progress Fuzzyfriend

Jul 17, 2009, 11:13 PM

Please take care, Fuzzybear!

bipolar_bear · Jul 19, 2009, 10:16 AM

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))))))) It is great you came up with the list. Thanks for sharing it with us.

BB

dance59326 · Jul 19, 2009, 02:45 PM

Awesome that you're finding help for yourself. Anything new??

dance59326

In_The_Darkness · Jul 19, 2009, 04:37 PM

((((((Fuzzy))))))

Sannah · 09:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

...............

to express needs

to be allowed needs

to be treated with respect

to mend the broken connection inside

to communicate with those i need to communicate with

to throw the f******* blades away

Fuzzy, I was away last week so I saw all of your posts at once this morning (here in SI). I noticed the order in which you posted each thread. Your first thread was about the message that you still carry with you from your abusers. Then you let out your anger in the next post. Then you posted on how to not continue to punish yourself like the abusers did. Finally, you posted this one. I see this as moving forward for many reasons. #1) You reached out and shared!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #2) You wrote out each step of this here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know from experience how helpful writing it out and sharing is to working through things. #3) like I said in the other post, getting this message outside of yourself is very good and this is how you work on combating these harmful messages. #4) Your list above ^ is very, very good! The first step of problem solving is to define the problem and this you have done very well! Each issue above needs careful working through. Have you started on any of them yet???? I would suggest starting with one at a time, maybe make a thread to help you?????????? IMO, it seems that the order of these is in pretty good order. The list goes from specific to more broad and they seem to build on each other so starting at the top might be good??????? You have actually already started because by posting each of the posts that you did this week you were expressing needs so you must already believe to a degree that you are allowed needs!

To be treated with respect this is a practice thing IMO. You have to problem solve each incident where you are confronted with this.

Oh yeah, you titled this thread failure but actually this thread is a success because you outlined what you have to work on........