[angie2716]

Ok last night when he got home we were in the bed and he rubbed my leg and he noticed the cuts. He then asked what was going on and i just told him everything. He didnt get mad like I thought. He is just upset a little. And he said that he would not abandon me. He told me he would be there for me like I did with him through his rehab and jail. He did say that if the kids see me do it they will leave until I can get better. I can kind of understand that but I would never let them see or even watch me do that to myself. My appointment is tomorrow and we are going to get all the info we can so he can understand all of this better. And he did tell me he he didnt realize how serious it was and that i need to go to the hospital. And this weekend he wants me to sit down and tell my stepdad, sisters, aunt, and mother in law (which he knows that she already knows). She is just going to be there for moral support for me. I feel better that he knows and he didnt respond the way i thought he would.

[Sannah]

Yah!!!!!!!!!! I just knew that he wasn't as bad as you thought he was! We can really build things up in our mind and make things worse than they really are. Our projections can make people much worse than what the reality really is.

So you must have gotten to the point where you felt that you could trust him?

He sounds very supportive. This is really good! You must feel so much better?

[Perna]

Just because he knows and is supportive, don't let him take charge of your life! I don't understand the part about you "have to" tell these other people; that should be you deciding that, not him, and going to the hospital, etc., even the misguided thing about the kids seeing you.

[Tatyana2009]

Hi Angie,

I am glad you talked and that he did not respond the way you thought he might.

I agree with Perna. Its an important point to keep in mind. Please stay in charge and dont feel like you have to do this or have to do that. You just told him. Its a huge step. Remember how difficult it was... To urge you to tell others right now may not be such a good idea. One step at a time - and just be sure you decide which step and in which direction. Support means supporting people in their steps and decisions. Not telling them whats right and wrong for them.

I hug you xxx

[angie2716]

Thank yall for your replies. yes it helps that he knows but i dont feel any better. still doing it. and i feel like i should tell them as well so they know that is should be taken seriously.

[Tatyana2009]

It takes a while to feel better. One step at a time Angie. You are doing really well xxxx

Good luck, angie2716.