[whenwillitend]

hi, i'm new here.
until today i hadn't hurt myself in four months. today i ruined it. i have too much going on, and right now i just don't have the strength to fight the urge. i'm such a failure.

[Ebpm]

You aren't a failure, trust me. Relapse is actually normal in recovery so not to worry, do you know specifically why you might have injured again? How do you think you can avoid instances like this?

Always know that you have support here. After a period of time without doing so, I SI-ed and felt bad for a little while, but I let it go. And now I can say I haven't done that in a while, so stay calm. The more you dwell on it the more it'll stress you out.

Relax friend, you'll be alright, trust me. ;-) (hugs!)

[SylviaPlath]

Originally Posted by Ebpm

You aren't a failure, trust me. Relapse is actually normal in recovery so not to worry, do you know specifically why you might have injured again? How do you think you can avoid instances like this?

Always know that you have support here. After a period of time without doing so, I SI-ed and felt bad for a little while, but I let it go. And now I can say I haven't done that in a while, so stay calm. The more you dwell on it the more it'll stress you out.

Relax friend, you'll be alright, trust me. ;-) (hugs!)

Well said! I'm not the one who posted but you made me feel better anyway.

[puzzclar]

Your not a failure!!!!! Read my signature it will help you understand why... And it can help!! It helped me.

[whenwillitend]

Thank you all! I just got out of the hospital, and hopefully now I'll be able to cope in other ways, more healthy ways.

[kalisha36]

I know how awful it can feel to have a relapse when you si but just when your running up a flight of stairs and say your in the 5th flight and you fall you don't start down all the way at the first flight you pick up from where you fell and keep going...Success is still success...I know it can feel that all success is lost because you had a relapse, and it's easy for me to say it's not lost just pick up from were you left off and keep trucking your doing AWESOME...However I am glad your talking about it and hopefully you can follow up with your T about it too and find out what made you trigger or what helped you get to this point? Anyways hugs if safe Take care,
Kalisha

[Skully]

You are NOT a failure. One slip up does not constitute as a failure. Everyone will slip every now and then. What you need to do is evaluate what triggered you to do it. Think about it and try to come up with a way of coping with that trigger. I know it is hard but don't be so down on yourself. Slip ups happen to everyone whether it be SI or trying to quite smoking/drinking. It's ok, it really is. Getting depressed and being down on yourself may cause you to do it again. Try to think in a positive manor and look at the incident objectively and see if you can find a solution.
I wish you luck and please let us know how you are doing.
Also,
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!!!

[whenwillitend]

Thank you all! In the hospital I came up with a long list of healthy coping skills, I'm hoping to be able to actually use them if I get to the point again.
I really like the thing about the stairs, that really makes sense.

[phoenix7]

4 Months wihtout SI thats great well done

ok you slipped up - the thing to do is not to beat yourself up about it - as all these kind people have said - give yourself credit for the 4 months and give yourself credit for coming here and reaching out - that was very brave

Every second you dont SI is a victory

and now you have your list of things to do and also at the top of the forum there are lists to help you too

please take good care of you and stay safe

P7

[trixielou]

its been since august since i cut & i am fighting the urge really bad right now i wish everybody i hate would drop dead

[invisigirl]

you are NOT a failure.