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Old Nov 01, 2011, 01:08 PM
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It started yesterday when my mum was being rude and interrupted my dad. I was angry and I started to cut myself so I can feel better. Now, I felt really angry and I just hurt myself and my anger was gone. It was such a relief! I should do this more often when I'm stressed.

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Old Nov 01, 2011, 01:49 PM
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Find some other way to relieve your stress... I know it's a relief, but it can lead to health problems. the cuts can get infected, and if you're like me (and many others) you'll find that you have to cut more and deeper to get the same satisfaction. You don't want to get addicted to something as dangerous as cutting. Also, you won't really want to have ugly scars when you're older. I used to do mine rapid and shallow, but all over, thinking if I didn't go deep it wouldn't cause too many scars. Now that I'm older I've got these spider web traces all over my arms, not to mention the deep gouge marks on my breasts and belly (where I went deeper, because I thought nobody would see.) The day might come when you want to look pretty to someone special, and you'll be ashamed of your scars.

I don't know if you see someone for help with your depression and self injury, but it would be really good if you could get some help before it develops into something even worse. i know one woman who ended up damaging her tendons she cut so deep. i don't want anything bad to happen to you.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 01:54 PM
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Find some other way to relieve your stress... I know it's a relief, but it can lead to health problems. the cuts can get infected, and if you're like me (and many others) you'll find that you have to cut more and deeper to get the same satisfaction. You don't want to get addicted to something as dangerous as cutting. Also, you won't really want to have ugly scars when you're older. I used to do mine rapid and shallow, but all over, thinking if I didn't go deep it wouldn't cause too many scars. Now that I'm older I've got these spider web traces all over my arms, not to mention the deep gouge marks on my breasts and belly (where I went deeper, because I thought nobody would see.) The day might come when you want to look pretty to someone special, and you'll be ashamed of your scars.

I don't know if you see someone for help with your depression and self injury, but it would be really good if you could get some help before it develops into something even worse. i know one woman who ended up damaging her tendons she cut so deep. i don't want anything bad to happen to you.
You are right. I have some scars but it's not bad. I don't cut really deep. I don't need help really
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 01:56 PM
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Well, just keep an eye on yourself. Cutting at all is a bad thing. (((hug)))
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:00 PM
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Well, just keep an eye on yourself. Cutting at all is a bad thing. (((hug)))
Yeah it is but I guess I deserve it.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:03 PM
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(((happycheeks)))

You don't deserve it happycheeks, I am sorry that you feel crappy, Try distracting yourself hun. Keep safe.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:04 PM
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Self injury is an extremely temporary comfort. My experience in the past has been that it might provide relief for a little while, but the guilt afterwards totally outweighs any "comforting" effect it had. Plus, as mgran mentioned, infections could result, cuts that are really deep could require stitches.

The scars are annoying too. I haven't cut in almost 6 months...some of my scars are well over a year old, and yet they are STILL there. It's not like they disappear in a matter of days. Depending on the severity, they can stay for your whole life.

Self-injury is just a way to mask issues. What helped me was to figure out what my struggles were, and go through them with a professional (psychiatrist & therapist). Also, developing coping skills for when I felt like harming myself was important too. A few coping skills that work for me are exercising, using the computer, listening to music, and reading. As long as it's positive and distracts someone from self-harming, I think that's great!

I hope you'll consider getting professional help to figure out what triggers your urges to cut, and hopefully to come up with a better plan to deal with those urges.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:05 PM
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(((happycheeks)))

You don't deserve it happycheeks, I am sorry that you feel crappy, Try distracting yourself hun. Keep safe.


I'll try to distract myself with music. Get well, I read you're not feeling well.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:08 PM
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Self injury is an extremely temporary comfort. My experience in the past has been that it might provide relief for a little while, but the guilt afterwards totally outweighs any "comforting" effect it had. Plus, as mgran mentioned, infections could result, cuts that are really deep could require stitches.

The scars are annoying too. I haven't cut in almost 6 months...some of my scars are well over a year old, and yet they are STILL there. It's not like they disappear in a matter of days. Depending on the severity, they can stay for your whole life.

Self-injury is just a way to mask issues. What helped me was to figure out what my struggles were, and go through them with a professional (psychiatrist & therapist). Also, developing coping skills for when I felt like harming myself was important too. A few coping skills that work for me are exercising, using the computer, listening to music, and reading. As long as it's positive and distracts someone from self-harming, I think that's great!

I hope you'll consider getting professional help to figure out what triggers your urges to cut, and hopefully to come up with a better plan to deal with those urges.
Thank you for your reply. Should I seek help? I had a T before but I didn't go to a session twice and they discharged me or whatever that means. The T just spoke to me about how to overcome my social anxiety rather than self injury. I can't really go back and tell my doctor I self harmed again. I just need to learn how to distract myself with positive and healthy distractions. I can do this on my own, I guess....
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:09 PM
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I'll try to distract myself with music. Get well, I read you're not feeling well.
I'll be ok I think, I just have a sore throat and an awful cough also full of cold, Caught it off the kids lol.

It is good that you are trying happycheeks, I know that it is hard
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:10 PM
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I'll be ok I think, I just have a sore throat and an awful cough also full of cold, Caught it off the kids lol.

It is good that you are trying happycheeks, I know that it is hard
It is hard. Drink plenty of water and rest. I drank loads of water and it helped me get rid of my cold.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:11 PM
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I feel better now that I typed about my problems.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:20 PM
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Find some other way to relieve your stress... I know it's a relief, but it can lead to health problems. the cuts can get infected, and if you're like me (and many others) you'll find that you have to cut more and deeper to get the same satisfaction. You don't want to get addicted to something as dangerous as cutting. Also, you won't really want to have ugly scars when you're older. I used to do mine rapid and shallow, but all over, thinking if I didn't go deep it wouldn't cause too many scars. Now that I'm older I've got these spider web traces all over my arms, not to mention the deep gouge marks on my breasts and belly (where I went deeper, because I thought nobody would see.) The day might come when you want to look pretty to someone special, and you'll be ashamed of your scars.

I don't know if you see someone for help with your depression and self injury, but it would be really good if you could get some help before it develops into something even worse. i know one woman who ended up damaging her tendons she cut so deep. i don't want anything bad to happen to you.

i agree with this.
i have scars from realy deep ones that are on my thighs.
now im realy embarased when i go swimming
or am intamate with my boyfriend.
also people ask questions
and judge me when they see them.
i dont cut any more,
i find that when i feel like i want to,
i will do something to distract those feelings,
like take a shower,
or call somebody that i can talk to,
even if its about something irrelivent,
like a new movie comming out soon
... or something.
i would encourage you to try this technique.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:20 PM
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Thank you for your reply. Should I seek help? I had a T before but I didn't go to a session twice and they discharged me or whatever that means. The T just spoke to me about how to overcome my social anxiety rather than self injury. I can't really go back and tell my doctor I self harmed again. I just need to learn how to distract myself with positive and healthy distractions. I can do this on my own, I guess....
Yes, I would definitely suggest seeking help. Self-injury is a serious issue, and it's almost always better that a person try to tackle the problem with a professional who has experience in that area.

Of course, it's important to mention to the T that you see what you want to work on, whether it's social anxiety, self-injury, or both! It's crucial that you let them know what's important to you. Otherwise, they may never know what to work on!

It's great that you are considering seeking help. My experience with myself, and with talking to others who self-harm(ed), is that they could not overcome this alone. I'm sure there are those out there who have stopped self-injuring on their own, but I'd guess they were part of the minority. A therapist can help us see what we could not see alone, provide a second opinion and help us work through it. Plus, as I mentioned, they are experienced in this area.
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Old Nov 01, 2011, 02:24 PM
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i agree with this.
i have scars from realy deep ones that are on my thighs.
now im realy embarased when i go swimming
or am intamate with my boyfriend.
also people ask questions
and judge me when they see them.
i dont cut any more,
i find that when i feel like i want to,
i will do something to distract those feelings,
like take a shower,
or call somebody that i can talk to,
even if its about something irrelivent,
like a new movie comming out soon
... or something.
i would encourage you to try this technique.
Thank you for your suggestion.
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