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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:32 AM
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EFFING BS, HAPPYCHEEKS. I for one HATE loud people. Loud and talkative is not a characteristic of a good friend. What will loudness do to you? Not to be rude, but loud people just cause others migrains mostly. Or hide emptiness in their loudness.

And seriously, wanting to kill yourself because you are not loud is pretty stupid. Imagine if the everybody was talkative and loud. Who would listen? Have you ever seen loud girls in catfight on a reality show? Do you think this would be a great thing on global level?

And... we can do only so much for you. You are told over and over again you are nice and how you don't need to be all the things you are not... why aren't you taking it in? What is the real problem? Me thinks there is a issue much deeper than not being loud and "normal". Please, be honest at least with yourself... and try to reach help somewhere. We can do only so much.... especially when we may not be getting the full picture.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:35 AM
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I disagree. I think being a good listener is more important. Did something happen with a friend concerning this issue?
Well, before someone has complained to me because I was quiet. On this site, I've seen people write loads and they are loved but I can't write loads. I struggle with conversation.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:38 AM
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EFFING BS, HAPPYCHEEKS. I for one HATE loud people. Loud and talkative is not a characteristic of a good friend. What will loudness do to you? Not to be rude, but loud people just cause others migrains mostly. Or hide emptiness in their loudness.

And seriously, wanting to kill yourself because you are not loud is pretty stupid. Imagine if the everybody was talkative and loud. Who would listen? Have you ever seen loud girls in catfight on a reality show? Do you think this would be a great thing on global level?

And... we can do only so much for you. You are told over and over again you are nice and how you don't need to be all the things you are not... why aren't you taking it in? What is the real problem? Me thinks there is a issue much deeper than not being loud and "normal". Please, be honest at least with yourself... and try to reach help somewhere. We can do only so much.... especially when we may not be getting the full picture.
You do have a point. You didn't offend me. I don't listen and take it in because I am stubborn. I guess loud people are annoying. Quiet is better I guess. They are nice and kind I guess. What does BS mean?
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:40 AM
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Well, before someone has complained to me because I was quiet. On this site, I've seen people write loads and they are loved but I can't write loads. I struggle with conversation.
Trust me...as am I
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:52 AM
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Well, before someone has complained to me because I was quiet. On this site, I've seen people write loads and they are loved but I can't write loads. I struggle with conversation.
Maybe they weren't complaining but just mentioning what they noticed about you?

I always respond to your threads because I want to. It has nothing to do with how much you write. You reach out and I reach back.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 10:56 AM
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Maybe they weren't complaining but just mentioning what they noticed about you?

I always respond to your threads because I want to. It has nothing to do with how much you write. You reach out and I reach back.
Yeah I guess they did.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 11:09 AM
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You are agreeing very quickly to both me and Venus.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 12:18 PM
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You are agreeing very quickly to both me and Venus.
Yeah I am. Is it bad?
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 12:19 PM
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It is just not good for you. Can you see why?
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 12:24 PM
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It is just not good for you. Can you see why?
I don't know to be honest. I'm not clever.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 12:25 PM
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I should be negative again. That's how I should be.....
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 12:57 PM
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I should be negative again. That's how I should be.....
I think you know how you should be. Honest would be a great start.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 01:21 PM
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You should be you and believe what you decide.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 01:57 PM
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You should be you and believe what you decide.
I can't be me. I am quite the person who follow what people say. I am dependent on people. I need people's opinions.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 03:23 PM
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Is this okay with you then?
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 03:24 PM
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Is this okay with you then?
I think but sometimes I don't know how to be me and have my own views.
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Old Nov 21, 2011, 05:45 PM
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No one needs me. I will just disappear and won't post. No one needs my posts. Most people on here, would be happy if I just be gone. - That's not true. All those hugs made me feel better.
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No one needs me. I will just disappear and won't post. No one needs my posts. Most people on here, would be happy if I just be gone. - That's not true. All those hugs made me feel better.
Aww I am glad I made you feel better.
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Old Nov 22, 2011, 09:39 AM
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I think but sometimes I don't know how to be me and have my own views.
I would think that you would have to deal with the fears that you have for having your own views. Do you understand how you got to this point?
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Old Nov 22, 2011, 10:12 AM
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I would think that you would have to deal with the fears that you have for having your own views. Do you understand how you got to this point?
I'm not sure. Maybe I was bullied or someone put me down when I said my own views.
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Old Nov 22, 2011, 10:59 AM
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Did your mum encourage you to express your own views?
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Old Nov 22, 2011, 11:00 AM
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((((happycheeks))))

I have told you many times that you are cared for, I value you and care about you alot, I really do think you need to go and see your GP, I know that you're scared of doing this but you need the support and care that you deserve.
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Old Nov 22, 2011, 11:42 AM
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Did your mum encourage you to express your own views?
Not really. It's like her views are more important. For example... If I went out with someone who is older than me or is from another country. She would tell me that's wrong. I remember a boy gave me a love letter but it said something about "making love" in it. The letter got burnt up and she told me it's wrong. That my dad never said anything like that to her or anything rude or dirty. So, it's wrong to talk about sex. Maybe that's why I feel weird about sex. I guess I need to think about the root causes of my problems.
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I have told you many times that you are cared for, I value you and care about you alot, I really do think you need to go and see your GP, I know that you're scared of doing this but you need the support and care that you deserve.

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Old Nov 23, 2011, 12:28 PM
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I agree with Buttercup Happycheeks about seeing your doctor. And finding a therapist if you don't have one. She/he will help you tremendously with the root causes of your issues. And as another posted it's nice to know that I am not alone. I am quiet and was picked on in school or just plain ignored for it. I mean I just didn't talk- couldn't (selective mutism). Anyway, I'm going on- my point is just that I thank you for not letting me feel alone on this.
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