Has your T ever asked to see your scars? Have you ever showed your T or if he/she asked would you be willing to show them?

My T has already stated that she has dealt with a client who SI, but it does make her uncomfortable. She asked today had I done it lately & I told her yes. She didn't say anything else about it though. If she ever asks I think I would show her. I guess I would want her to see how that things I share with her & my life in general affects me to the point of hurting myself. My scars aren't too bad so I don't think I would have a issue with showing her although it would make me anxious. Guess I won't know really what I would do or how I feel until she actually asks...if she asks.

What about you? What have you done or what would you do about showing T your scars?

[nicoleb2]

My T has only asked me about scars a couple of times, because they were clearly visible and she had to make sure they were not recent.
Another time, she asked if I needed medical attention for a recent cut that she could not see.

[kaliope]

I have only had a pdoc ask to see mine and she was very clinical about it making notations like its about 2 1/2 inches...from when i cut my wrist to kill myself.

How did that make you guys feel?

[BlessedRhiannon]

I asked my T if I could show her some of my scars, to help me get past some of the shame I feel about them. My T was awesome. She looked at what I was willing to show her, and didn't react at all, which was exactly what I needed. Afterwards, I felt very anxious, upset, scared. I emailed my T for reassurance that she didn't think less of me, and she told me that she was honored I had shared my scars with her.

Now, if my T had asked to see my scars, I probably would have panicked and shut down. I needed it to be my decision to show my scars.

[crazylife]

My T asked to see my cuts a few times and i did, one time i didn't because i was ashamed of it he just helped me to understand a bit more. He was great and i'm not ashamed or embarrassed of scars now if any one asks i just tell them. I see it as a life experience and half the people who asked me about it are doing it themselves and wanted someone to talk to.

[agma]

The 1st t that I saw asked to see my fresh cuts, but I said no. I think she was worried and wanted to make sure they weren't infected or in need of medical attention or anything like that. She was ok with me saying no, and she didn't ask again (I assured her that they were fine). I would say no if my t asked to see my scars or fresh cuts (I always cut in the same areas, so I couldn't show her the scars without her seeing the fresh cuts). It would be very ackward since they are on my upper thigh and hips.

[mward2011]

If my therapist were to ask me to see my scars, at least the ones's on my forearm I would show her. I feel so much shame and embarrassment about my scars and what I have done to myself that I might be a good way to work through those feelings.
If my parents ever asked, I would deny that I even have any self injury scars.
SoFragile88 Thank you for posting this question. If really allowed me to think.

[smmath]

my t has asked to see my cuts and i showed them to her. thanks for this question it makes me think of a similar one. but i am NOT coppying you. believe me a lot of people have seen my scars.

I get asked to show my arm to MH professionals all the time because I have a history of not getting them seen at ED when I need to. my old T asked to see everytime I cut she didn't ever really react. my new T asked to see my arm and was shocked at how bad they were, she actually said wow and had a shocked look on her face. and dr and nurses when I'm IP ask to see them all the time.

Well I showed T my scars this evening. We were on the topic of them & she asked to see them. I was a bit hesitant & uncomfortable, but I showed her. She didn't say anything, but that she was glad that they weren't recent. I want to know what she thought when she saw them.

[Justbyou]

My therapist asked me to see them the first time we met. It caught me off guard because no one has ever asked to see them before, but I was ok with it.

[notablackbarbie]

(((SoFragile88)))

[notablackbarbie]

(((everyone else here on this thread)))

[Sillystring1]

i'm really struggling over the idea of showing scars to t and trying to figure out what it would really do for me to do it. How did you guys feel if/when you showed t your scars?

Originally Posted by Sillystring1

i'm really struggling over the idea of showing scars to t and trying to figure out what it would really do for me to do it. How did you guys feel if/when you showed t your scars?

I was ok with showing her, but it was quite uncomfortable & weird for me.