I started to cut about 6 months ago it was never very severe but I haven't cut in a month or so, and I really dont want to start again, but I miss the effect it had, I found myself wanting to substitute this with other things, starving, alcohol..etc. None of which are good for you either, it seems like I cant cope without some form of harming myself I don't want to hurt myself, but coping is just even more difficult if I don't, I've been thinking about going back to cutting
I can't take my mind off thinking it I just don't know what to do.

[Sannah]

Jarebear, SI, substance abuse, eating disorders are all addictions and people need addictions in order to deal with their feelings. These addictions release endorphins which improve your mood. Dealing with your feelings directly is how to not need the addictions. Do you have a therapist?

Originally Posted by Sannah

Jarebear, SI, substance abuse, eating disorders are all addictions and people need addictions in order to deal with their feelings. These addictions release endorphins which improve your mood. Dealing with your feelings directly is how to not need the addictions. Do you have a therapist?

I wish I knew how I could deal with my emotions directly, I am pretty much an emotional wreck, and this last year was horrible lost 3 people of which 2 where very, very close to me. And so many other bad events.
No I dont have a therapist right now, I don't really have anyone I talk too in person, especially now im 4000 miles from home. So besides coming to PC I dont really talk to anyone.

[Sannah]

Is getting a therapist an option?

Originally Posted by Sannah

Is getting a therapist an option?

Not at the moment no, I will give some more info about my situation right now.
I am currently a foreign exchange student in the united states, I am originally from europe, so getting help isnt really an option untill i go back in june

[nicoleb2]

Jare,

I wish I had some advice for you, but nothing i say would make anything better, and since I can't follow my own advice, it's obviously not helpful.

Thinking of you though and hoping you can stay safe

[Mylifeisdepressing]

I hate to tell you this and feel hypocritical, but I'm trying to help... Cutting hurts. It helps for a little while, but in the long run it just hurts. But if you must, then... Well, please be careful. I know what it's like to need it. But please take care of yourself. We are here for you

[Sanada]

Hello Jared.

I know how it feels to try to face and try to cope with emotions. It can really, really suck when one fees lost. I used to cut to escape the reality of what was going on in my life life. It worked for awhile but it is not the way to deal with emotions. To be stronger is to 'take the emotional bull by the horns', it makes us stronger in the long run.

Drinking just numbs us to emotions and is deff not a way to cope, it makes things worse. Try to be you jared, you deserve to be happy. Happiness will come to you.

I hoped this helped in any way.
S

Originally Posted by nicoleb2

Jare,

I wish I had some advice for you, but nothing i say would make anything better, and since I can't follow my own advice, it's obviously not helpful.

Thinking of you though and hoping you can stay safe

Hey Nicole, sometimes its good to be a hypocrit, sometimes we know what is right, but we cant do it ourselves, that doesnt mean its not true though, thinking of you too, many hugs and love

Originally Posted by Mylifeisdepressing

I hate to tell you this and feel hypocritical, but I'm trying to help... Cutting hurts. It helps for a little while, but in the long run it just hurts. But if you must, then... Well, please be careful. I know what it's like to need it. But please take care of yourself. We are here for you

I know that what you are saying is true, its hard too cope without some way of doing something that happens to always be self-destructing, thanks for your message, many hugs

Originally Posted by Sanada

Hello Jared.

I know how it feels to try to face and try to cope with emotions. It can really, really suck when one fees lost. I used to cut to escape the reality of what was going on in my life life. It worked for awhile but it is not the way to deal with emotions. To be stronger is to 'take the emotional bull by the horns', it makes us stronger in the long run.

Drinking just numbs us to emotions and is deff not a way to cope, it makes things worse. Try to be you jared, you deserve to be happy. Happiness will come to you.

I hoped this helped in any way.
S

Hey Sanada, The thing is that I dont want to be me, I am not happy with me, I dont even know who I really am. I know how bad all those habits are, but its hard to live life without them, i am trying, but its hard

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Jarebear

The thing is that I dont want to be me, I am not happy with me, I dont even know who I really am.

These would be good places to start ^.