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Jan 22, 2012, 03:46 PM
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I picked my feet again. That's my most recent evolution of SI. I started with my fingers they get pretty bad. Then my legs, I scratch through the skin. Now that it's winter I find my feet are dry so the skin cracks every now and then. I found these pieces are "perfect" for picking. The worst part is it often hurts after because I have to walk on my feet. But it's like an "ok" hurt. I don't need it to go away it's just felt. Anyone kwim?
I've been seeing a T for a few months now. I told her about my fingers. I guess I figured she'd see them eventually and if I brought it up myself it could maybe passed off as "just a nail biting habit". I can't even imagine telling her about my legs and feet I guess I'm finally realizing that I need to stop doing this. I just feel like I "have" to, especially if I find a piece of skin hanging or any healing skin. I think I needed "someone" to know about it. Not a soul in real life knows the extent of the issue. If I'm having trouble walking on my feet I blame it on bad ankles (which I do have). Anyone have any tips for stopping this kind of thing? |
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Jan 22, 2012, 04:11 PM
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I have a tendency to "pick" along with other SI stuff.
For my feet, I have tried to care for them rather than pull at the skin. I have a Saturday night ritual, of soak, remove hard skin with file, moisturise then really bright nail varnish. It takes my mind off other stuff and the bright coloured toes help to remind myself of my feet on the ground - the brighter the better. Hope you can share it with your T.
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Jan 22, 2012, 07:03 PM
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I moisutrize sometimes but at the same time I think I avoid doing it because I want to be able to pick at it
 I guess that's just a matter of accepting that what I want isn't what's best for me
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Jan 23, 2012, 10:27 AM
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Hi Silent, I think that it would be easier to stop if you understood why you do it? Do you do it because the pain improves your mood? Do you do it because it is a compulsion and helps you do deal with your anxiety? Do you do it to punish yourself?
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Jan 23, 2012, 03:14 PM
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That's exactly where I am. Trying to figure out why. And it seems like there's as many whys as there are clouds in the sky. I don't think the pain improves my mood...rather it just takes my mind off things. I agree with the compulsion to deal with anxiety idea, in that a lot of times I do it when I have a lot of anxiety. And maybe it's an indirect way to punish myself as well, knowing that what I'm doing is going to hurt. Maybe I think I should look as broken as I feel but I don't know how to do that in a more normal way..
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Jan 23, 2012, 03:28 PM
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Why should you look as broken as you feel? So that someone will see it?
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Jan 23, 2012, 04:54 PM
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I think it's more of a case of matching my outside with my inside. I guess maybe I can believe me more if I don't look as poised and stable as I work so hard present myself as? Stuff to think about -thanks |
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Jan 24, 2012, 10:33 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 24, 2012, 01:19 PM
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