[hereiam]

how do you get close enough with a T to tell them about your cutting? i mean, does a connection with a T just happen, or do you just 'know' or what? i feel like i seriously struggle with being open and honest with my T and i dont know if thats me or part of the process or what. its been over a year that ive been seeing her (on and off)...so should i just move on or really try to make this work? i want to talk to someone about my SI.

Most of mine I didn't have to tell them. the therapist before them included incidences in the file, so when seeing new therapists they read it in my file. Sometimes they knew from things like my wearing long sleaves in summer - dead giveaway "something" is going on. When I have physicals my physicians sometimes would write in my charts scarring. So that too tells therapists. Those that I chose to tell I did so because the question came up for example I use the courage to heal text and workbook by Laura Davis as an active part of my therapy. I share my work in these books with my therapist so when we hit those questions about self harm and learning new ways to take care of things instead of self harm I just answer the questions head on and right out. I think there was only one time that I outright hid my self harm from my therapist. That was wback years ago when I was seeing a crisis center counselor and I was experiencing flashbacks and I didn't know thats what they were so when I would "wake up" cut I went to the crisis center and I was hospitalized- free cop car ride and full body search in the ER included. I didn't know what was going one but I knew one thing These cuts were not intentional and I was not suicidal. I got ticked off at everyone and when I got out I hid my cutting. other then that I have always been honest if the question ever came up didn't offer on my own but answered truthfully if they asked.

[rcd1]

Hi Hereiam, I havnt or dont see a therapist at all since i have been a cutter probably because im not good with opening up to people, but from what i have heard from others, you need to find a therapist that is more comfortable to you, if your having trouble opening up to this person, its probably because you dont trust he/she. anyhow, im not sure how to get close to people because thats definitly not what im good at, but if you ever need to talk to anybody im here to talk to. Im 20 years old and have been si'ing for a long time it seems to me now that i really think about it.

[hereiam]

thank you myself and rcd1 - I appreciate all the input.

I'm she might have an idea or something...gah, I dunno. Who cares.

[SerenitysWave]

<font color="purple"> I am upfront at the first meeting about my S/I, with every T and doc I have seen. </font>