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Old Apr 18, 2012, 09:18 PM
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I've been cutting (and biting, and digging fingernails into skin) since I was 14. I'm now in my 30's. I feel like it's time to "grow up" and stop doing these things. When I Googled cutting- almost everything is geared toward teenagers. I'm a mom. My daughter sees a bandage on my arm and sometimes scars. She's 11. I always tell her some excuse (a cat or dog, a fence, work, etc...). I'm worried she's getting old enough to see past that and I feel horribly lying to her but I feel like it's better she doesn't know the truth.

Are there other parents out there that cut? How do you handle your kids' questions?
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Old Apr 18, 2012, 10:15 PM
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I am a parent and I cut. I have a 9 year old and 6 year old. So far, I have just been using basically the same excuses as you, but I know soon they will not work.
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Old Apr 19, 2012, 08:03 AM
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Are you in therapy BD?
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Old Apr 20, 2012, 09:35 PM
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I am in my 40's and have cut since my children were very small they are all in there 20's now. They kinda grew up with it seeing the long shirts and scars. They have never really talked to me about it. They always went to their mom with the questions. She has told me that she always told them what their age appropriate answers. Dont know if that helps.
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Old Apr 22, 2012, 07:02 AM
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I believe that at some point there comes a time to spill the beans. When you feel they are mature enough to understand then tell them. I don't think it can be good to lie and cover up all the time to children. Fosters trust issues.
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