[DorianGray1323]

My name is Harley and this is about my 14 year old girlfriend.

So my girlfriend told me about her problem when we first started dating. How she cuts herself. I didn't know what to say about it at first. I just listened. She talked about her and her abusive father who constantly calls her a ***** and tells her that she is worthless. She told me how she considers suicide constantly. Her suicide attempt before. How she plans to spit her wrists one past time or OD on her dads medication.

I told her how I use to self harm and I told her what I did to stop and why I stopped. I told her methods. I convinced her to throw away all her cutting utensils and flush the pills as soon as she got home, and she did for me and she promised she wouldn't do it again. I told her there was at least 1 person who loved and cared for her.

She didn't cut for 10 days but her father, who had recently left her mom came back to babysit my girlfriend and her 4 brothers. He told her a lot of unsettling things and she found a pocket knife and continues the habit.

She knew this older guy named Corey. Corey is 19 and got her to start cutting. I've recently found out why. Corey got her to drink alcohol and then to have sex with her. During the sex he asked her to cut him and then herself. She found herself addicted and that it was a way to cope.

Now that cutting has found its way back into my life, I remember all the little details about how I used to cut. The feel. The taste. All the blades I had. I collected them. And I find myself missing it. Everyday I feel like it gets worse. I hold everything in and I know it's unhealthy but I don't usually open up. I've been feeling worse.

[sarek]

I have no personal experience myself but I know people who do, some very close to me. What I found to be important is to never judge her for falling back, never hold it against her. Things like this can happen and they should not be turned into a personal failure. The only real recipe is unconditional love and a neverending effort to build her self image up.

All you (and she) can do is try again and again as often as it takes.

`Hey Dorian grey,
I don't know what age you are but I am guessing pretty young if your gf is only 14.
This all seems overwhelming for you right now, right??? You are young, you should be happy not constantly worrying about other people, I don't mean to sound harsh here but I think your gf is being a little maipulative with you, you can't control other people and their actions. You should never allow anyone to emotionally blackmail you with suicide. You GF needs help but you cannot rescue her from her situation, her situation sucks but you have to look after you right now and be happy and I think all of this self harm is bringing you back to a dark place that you bravely left behind once before and I think you know you don't want to go back there!
I know because I have been in the same situation with a GF who always cut herself, we were both young and naive and I cared for her more than myself and did everything to help and everyday she threatened me with siucide I was so distraught I lost 4 stone and became severely depressed and that depression is still here with me today. I told her parents eventually and they blamed me for all her problems even though they hit her. they wouldn't allow us to see each other anymore and it broke my heart.
I don't you to get hurt or blame yourself for not being able to help. She can only help herself now and go to therapy or tell an adult about everything but please be kind to yourself, go out with friends, go to a disco, or the cinema and try to distract yourself from all this

[Girl_Interrupted]

OK, here's the thing. Don't make her throw away her tools, just for YOU.
She will throw them away in good time, and when she's ready.

She needs a professional to help her, and so do you.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by DorianGray1323

I hold everything in and I know it's unhealthy but I don't usually open up. I've been feeling worse.

What can you do about this ^ ? This is a big trigger for SI.