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Dec 25, 2003, 01:22 AM
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For the last month I have been extremely stressing over Christmas and my son's birthday - the fact that I have not really been able to get him anything. This is the first year that this has happened and I know it is because of the time I was on unemployment and then had my surgery.
Even though Christmas is not supposed to be about gifts, children will compare at school and say hurtful things. Plus my inability to make the holiday and his first party successful is a part of my feeling of being inadequate and a loser. People at work have seen how much this has bothered me. I invited Alex and my husband up to work today to make sure they ate and to see if I could give Alex some tokens to win points that could be redeemed. The tech manager kept giving him lots of tickets - hundreds to be exact. The girls behind the counter gave him tokens. They ate for free because I am one of the managers there. During the afternoon, one of the employees (whom I have helped lately with hours and being available to talk to anytime) and the tech manager had their heads together. I walked in and silence. All of a sudden, the girl had her coat on and she was leaving........the tech just looked at me and said, "she'll be back". When she returned, she had three bags and a basket in her hands. I followed her to the back and inside the bags were gifts for my son......and the basket was filled with fruit. She looked at me and told me that she knew how much it had upset me lately and that she also realized how cruel kids can be, esp. if Alex only received one or two things. She also mentioned how much she cared about me and the things I've done for her lately. I started crying.........then she started. I was so happy that Alex would have some gifts. Then my manager stopped by and told me that "Santa had given him a gift for Alex". He had gone out and bought a present for Alex also. He gave me a hug and wished me Merry Christmas. I have never had such generosity shown before. I was so happy and so relieved that Alex's special days would be special. Then the nasty one inside whispered,"sure, let your employees and boss help you out because you are such a LOSER"................that made me cry more. I'm focusing on how happy my son will be in the morning and his party is free - for the kids as well as the adults........another gift. The feelings I have about myself I will lock away till after Friday - after I see the happiness on his face and the fun he has with his friends. We went to Mass tonight and I was so proud of him.......he sang right along with me and was so good. Merry Christmas everyone - miracles do happen sometimes. Mary Alice 
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Dec 25, 2003, 03:13 AM
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wow thats one of the nicest thing i have heard in a long while. i dont think you should feel bad about having friends get gifts for your son, i think it should show you that you are good and caring person who is helpful and kind to the point that they wish to return the favor. hope tomarrow goes very well for you
when my ship ran out of fuel i burned the things that made it pretty when i ran out of that i burned the things i loved when i ran out of that i burned willpower to keep me moving. its not a pretty ship but it still moves.
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Dec 25, 2003, 01:09 PM
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Ty Lost.........makes you really believe in a higher power, doesn't it?
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Dec 25, 2003, 01:09 PM
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Merry Christmas to ((((((((Mary Alice and Alex)))))))): Mary Alice, keep this in your heart to remember always. This is the good stuff. Gracefully allowing others to open their hearts with the joy of sharing love and caring is a true gift to them. Receive that opportunity, and honor it, OK?!! God doesn't make junk [or losers]!! Merry Christmas! XOXO, Jill
<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue> 
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Dec 25, 2003, 02:30 PM
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Merry Christmas, Mary Alice! I'm glad that people came through for you. It's wonderful that Alex was taken care of and even more that the people you work with appreciate you and everything you do to help them. And it is real - they do. You are a wonderful person and anyone who makes the effort to get to know you can see that.
I live in a neighborhood where the people around us have nicer houses and are generally better off than us. We get by, but don't have all the extras that a lot of them do. Every year someone has been dropping off presents during the week or so before Christmas - usually a lot more than we manage to get for our kids ourselves. One way to look at it is that Santa really does visit us, and there are generous people out there, but it also makes me feel inadequate, and wonder what they really think of us that they think we can't even provide enough for our kids for Christmas. There's no way that we could compete with all the stuff that they bring, and we honestly don't even have a place to put it all in the house. But I guess looking at it that way is not a good attitude. It's better to be glad that people are so kind and generous, and to make more of an effort to give whatever we can to others who could use it, even if what we have to give is our time or something else non-material. That counts too. Wendy <font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>
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Dec 26, 2003, 12:31 AM
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Merry Christmas Jill **************hugs*****************************
If their help had been just for me, you know I would have refused it........but for Alex, yes I accepted it. He loved all the stuff he got from "Santa" and we spent the day playing, esp. an XBox game that my boss had gotten for him. There are indeed some good people in 3D. Hope your xmas was wonderful. xoxo Mary Alice
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Dec 26, 2003, 12:36 AM
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Merry Christmas to you as well, Wendy....hope the day was wonderful for you and your family.
Like I said, no one has EVER done that for me before - scared me in a lot of ways too. Yes, it does make me feel inadequate, but the look on Alex's face made it worth it for the day. Last night when we went to Mass - and it has been a very long time since I went - I felt at peace for the first time. In that building, with G*d, I found the peace I need. There is no way to repay their kindness to my son. Tomorrow is his birthday and he will have such a good time with his friends........I've been waiting for this day. xoxox Mary Alice
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Dec 26, 2003, 12:54 AM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mary Alice}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Sending warm thoughts and blessings your way, Love, Fuzzy
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Dec 26, 2003, 01:03 AM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{Fuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} hugging you so very tightly because I think we both need it.
xoxox
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Dec 26, 2003, 08:21 PM
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<3<3<3<3Mary Alice<3<3<3
Words cannot describe how happy I was upon reading this post. There truly is no one more deserving of such joy as you and your beautiful little boy. I know that it can be so easy to dismiss this as pity and attribute it to some inability of yours, but you have done more than enough to be receiving this help and joy. I can imagine that although things are not all well with you, seeing Alex so happy did your heart much good. Just remember that this just goes to show how important and loved you are by those around you. I know this probably sounds corny, but I still am so happy for you and your son, and wish him a happy birthday and send you both many hugs : ) <3Kelly<3 |
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Dec 26, 2003, 09:10 PM
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"miracles can happen". . .just believe, just believe . . .
Wishing you many miracles to come your way  In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend SOLON
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Dec 26, 2003, 09:36 PM
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Ahhh Mary Alice, we talk about the commercialism of Christmas and how it's all about the almighty dollar. But what you described is the true meaning of Christmas. What a miracle it was! And yet another miracle that you got to be a part of it. I'm so happy for you. I feel like you were blessed, and that's definitely a good thing!
Much love, bp "When you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance." |
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Dec 27, 2003, 12:02 AM
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********Kelly**************
He had a beautiful party and 4 of his friends showed up......he was so happy. The girls at work were all arguing over who would be his birthday hostess, and the one who helped me with gifts showed up just to eat with us and wish Alex a happy birthday. The joy I saw on his face made me glad because I had put it there.......I did something right. xoxoxoox Mary Alice
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Dec 27, 2003, 12:04 AM
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{{{{{{{{{{{DE}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
It's the reason I made us go to Mass - I could have used the same excuse that I was tired, but I had many reasons to be grateful that people cared enough to help. Thank you for your wish - as long as my son is happy, that's what counts. xoxoxo
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Dec 27, 2003, 12:09 AM
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{{{{{{{{Bp}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
It is indeed the true meaning.........I cried so much at work that day. Today my lowlife husband almost chose cigs over his own son's birthday party......let me explain. When he is without cigs, his mood is beyond horrible and verbally abusive. He said he wasn't going to go unless he had them - he couldn't control himself enough to be pleasant for Alex's sake. I told him not to hit up anyone at work or any of my friends for cigs........you know why he finally went? Not for my son - but because one of his friends was coming and he knew he could get a pack from him. ::::::::::::shaking head:::::::::::: My husband is beyond contempt, and he showed me his priorities tonight. No one hurts my son like that - and he said all this stuff in front of him. [sigh] Mary Alice
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Dec 27, 2003, 10:07 AM
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I feel the same way, when my son is happy, I am happy, he is all I have
In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend SOLON
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Dec 27, 2003, 11:37 AM
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I am glad that the party went well. Of course you did something right!
Thanks for telling us about it. So it sounds like Christmas and Alex's birthday went well and Alex is happy. How are you doing today?{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Love, Wendy <font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>
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Dec 27, 2003, 12:41 PM
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<center>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mary Alice}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}</center>
<center>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Wendy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}</center> You two beautiful ladies... picture a basket that was empty... now, blessings have rained down upon you... shake that basket and press it down... expect more blessings to come your way. Let your basket become full to overflowing. There is someone out there that thinks you're wonderful, that thinks you deserve good things, someone that wants to see you happy but most of all, someone that loves you! Accept it. Good things happen to good people. I'm "crying for happy" right now for the two of you! 
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