[Indie'sOK]

I'm in therapy (not directly for SI), and my therapist told me last session that if I was still cutting by out next session we would have to tell my parents. I am 18 years old but I live with them - legally, don't I have a right to privacy? I wouldn't normally care if they found out, except that my parents have been dealing with a lot of stress lately and I don't want to put more onto them. They thought I'd stopped completely because it's been over a year since my last bad relapse.

I know it's selfish because I'm hurting my loved ones by doing this, but I really don't want to stop. I don't cut often...really it's a situational thing rather than a daily habit. I feel stuck. Stuck in a hole I can't get out of...I just feel so down for dumb reasons and I don't know what to do. No motivation, having a hard time even wanting to stay in school or go to college next year. All I want to do is sleep...just sleep all the time.

[Sannah]

Did you talk to your T about being 18? How can she share with your parents when you are legally an adult?

Are you working in therapy on the reasons why you SI?

[AngelWolf3]

I wouldve thought you had privacy too, at 18. I don't know, though I would definitely ask your T. I understand about the not wanting to hurt other people thing too...hugs to you (if that's ok)

[SoupDragon]

I never wanted to stop smoking - I loved it - I rolled my own and I had a whole routine / ritual that went with it. But I knew it wasn't good for me and for that reason decided to quit. I think SI is similar, you can get that instant fix which feels good, but in the long run it is just not a healthy thing to do.

Yes as above, I would tell T you do not give your consent for sharing and you are an adult so can decide for yourself.

I don't think your T has rights to tell your parents about your SI I thought everything you tell your T is confidential? accept if you're a risk to yourself or others like if you're suicidal, I would tell your T she doesn't have the rights to tell your parents.

[Indie'sOK]

Thanks guys. I will ask her about the privacy thing, but I fear that she may take it the wrong way and get defensive or wonder why I even come to therapy if I don't want the help. Ok, I do want it - just not my parents finding out about the SI. Besides, this isn't the only reason I see her. It isn't even one of the most important ones.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Indie'sOK

I fear that she may take it the wrong way and get defensive or wonder why I even come to therapy if I don't want the help. Ok, I do want it - just not my parents finding out about the SI.

There is nothing wrong with an adult not wanting her parents to know everything. I see absolutely nothing wrong with having this conversation with your T. Keep us posted?

[Indie'sOK]

I have an appointment Monday - I will let you know how it goes

Good luck Indie

Best of luck Indie - im sure your T will be happy to clarify any issues surrounding privacy. Lest us know what happens.