[JayneDough!]

I hear a lot from other post about people wanting to hide their scars so on one will see them. I've even heard others say that so me people have even commented on their scars. It's always been the opposite for me.

I have never hid my cuts or scars and no one has ever said anything to me about them. For the most part I cut my arms and legs, so those would be "normal" places for ordinary cuts to occur I guess. Reciently I've tried cutting across my chest.

This weekend I went to a dance with a low cut dress, so the cut was clearly visable for the world to see, all bright and red. Guess what? Not a single comment. I've always known that no one has ever cared about me, but I thought this gash would get a comment.

I wonder if all of us can just stop worrying about hiding their cuts because it seems that everyone else is wrapped up in their own world and won't see them anyway.

Your Thoughts?

[jojocrazie]

Originally Posted by JayneDough!

I hear a lot from other post about people wanting to hide their scars so on one will see them. I've even heard others say that so me people have even commented on their scars. It's always been the opposite for me.

I have never hid my cuts or scars and no one has ever said anything to me about them. For the most part I cut my arms and legs, so those would be "normal" places for ordinary cuts to occur I guess. Reciently I've tried cutting across my chest.

This weekend I went to a dance with a low cut dress, so the cut was clearly visable for the world to see, all bright and red. Guess what? Not a single comment. I've always known that no one has ever cared about me, but I thought this gash would get a comment.

I wonder if all of us can just stop worrying about hiding their cuts because it seems that everyone else is wrapped up in their own world and won't see them anyway.

Your Thoughts?

Im sorry you feel no one cares. Its the worst feeling. People also may think or know you self harm and may feel awkward saying anything about it. I hope you are ok. I know for me. I try to hide my scars. I know people dont care about me. But im just insecure and if someone were to say something I would just feel terrible about myself. I would feel even more weak. And like they are judging me. My family is different though. Like my mother knows I do now. So she brings it up a lot. She likes to make me into a bigger failure. I also suffer from an eating disorder. So she says **** a lot. For example the other day I ate a piece of French toast which I usually dont eat. And she says" Oh no. Better go take a box of laxative, and cut your wrist. And bleed. Loss of blood will make you lose weight too." She said it right infringement of my brother and stepfather. I felt so defeated. I hate it. This is why I usually hide my scars. Hope things get better for you.

[Sannah]

Hi Jayne, if you live in a dysfunctional family and are around dysfunctional people, yes, these people and denial are best friends. Do you have a therapist?

[Gr3tta]

hi jaynedough. i have been on the receiving end of stares and rude or cruel comments from complete strangers. however, i have never had a doctor, nurse, medical professional of any kind, family member, or friend comment on obvious injuries and/or scars. sometimes i think it's because no one cares, or because i deserve to be injured and hurt; sometimes i think it's because people who do care don't really know what to say or do. some people's situations probably require them to do more hiding than others. i do hear what you're saying though.

[xXSkitty KittyXx]

I never hide my cuts and I constantly am going at my wrists.... no one notices except my best friend and my boyfriend.... they "check" me everyday to see how many more cuts I have than I did the previous day.... my friend says i shouldn't be doing it and slaps my wrist... I don't believe her though..... I deserve it...but no, I never hide it.....I do wear lots of bracelets though

[greyclouds]

I burn around my wrists, it was always on the left arm,
But then I told what I was doing and I did stop for a few months.

I now have burns in the side of my right wrist, I don't always hide it.
I can't remember a lot at the moment and only know I told one friend. That I have si recently.
I don't hide them as such but if any one questions them I get up tight.
I say that I done it at work as I'm always getting cuts etc.
my own behaviour is weird to me, that I don't hide it, yet get up tight when asked.

My mum tends not to ask cos I know she can't stand the pain. And with out telling her that I have si I think she knows.

I'm sure people do care they are just frightened of your answer!

I once see a girl in the shop she had visible scars all up her arm, and some cuts.
I see people watching her, wondering judging. No one would dare ask her what had happened cos they wouldn't. Want know the truth they wouldn't understand.
I wanted to go over to her and hug her cos I know the pain she was in to scar her body so badly.

My point is, it's not people don't care, they just don't know what to say as they don't understand.

If you had never self harmed, would you ask a stranger how they got that cut? And if they replied I did it myself how would you react?

And so you know we all care about you very much, your not alone here ((hugs))

[JayneDough!]

Originally Posted by Sannah

Hi Jayne, if you live in a dysfunctional family and are around dysfunctional people, yes, these people and denial are best friends. Do you have a therapist?

Sannah--I live alone and only see my family about once every 3 months or so. I only started cutting in June, but no one has every said anything one way or the other.

I tried seeing a therpist, but after about 3 sessions he told me that I was under Satanic Attack and refused to work with me anymore. (What are you supposed to do when the people who are supposed to be helping you are crazier than you are?) I called another clinic in the area and left messages about wanting an appointment for a span of three weeks, but no one bothered to return my calls, so I quit trying.

[JayneDough!]

Originally Posted by greyclouds

If you had never self harmed, would you ask a stranger how they got that cut? And if they replied I did it myself how would you react?

((hugs))

I live in a pretty active community, so it's not uncommon to have people ask about an injury because it usually has a good story attached. LOL It would be something like, "Oh that, I did that while back-country skiing and had a ski get stuck inder a log causing me to face plant into the nearest tree." Or "Oh that, I thought it was still warm enough to try the trail without ice cleats and ended up slidding of the trail and landing among the rocks in the river."

I prepared myself to be asked about the cut because it was so obvious and in such an unusual place and I ended up being taken aback when no one asked about it.

[Angelornot]

Originally Posted by JayneDough!

I hear a lot from other post about people wanting to hide their scars so on one will see them. I've even heard others say that so me people have even commented on their scars. It's always been the opposite for me.

I have never hid my cuts or scars and no one has ever said anything to me about them. For the most part I cut my arms and legs, so those would be "normal" places for ordinary cuts to occur I guess. Reciently I've tried cutting across my chest.

This weekend I went to a dance with a low cut dress, so the cut was clearly visable for the world to see, all bright and red. Guess what? Not a single comment. I've always known that no one has ever cared about me, but I thought this gash would get a comment.

I wonder if all of us can just stop worrying about hiding their cuts because it seems that everyone else is wrapped up in their own world and won't see them anyway.

Your Thoughts?

I used to try to hide my cuts but I found out when I stopped that people tend to ignore it. I don't think it's because they don't care, I think it's because they don't know what to say. They don't really understand. Personally, I'm rather grateful that they ignore it. I don't have to worry about how to dress.
A couple people commented on it, but those were both friends. also young children tend to ask what happened because they don't already know.

[bastetsha]

Sorry you have to feel that way. I have never been asked about my scars by my doctors or anybody that wasn't my mom. I think they just get uncomfortable and don't know what to say to me. I mean, they have to do a blood test so often that they have to see them.

[Sannah]

Maybe you live in an area where people don't get into other's business and to ask about it would seem intrusive?

[bastetsha]

Probably but not even my T asks. Sometimes I just want to yell someone help me but I can't, I am too scared. Especially now that one of the main voices I hear just yells it out at me. I have taken to wearing arm warmers all the time now just to shut him up.