[XserenityX]

My boyfriend just broke up with me because he wants to be single. The problem is he was basically my best friend. I don't have a lot of friends and he was the reason I was feeling okay. But now that he is gone... I'm worried it will all come back. The insecurities and cutting. I'm not sure what to do or how to keep it away. At this point it feels like too much work to think about trying to actually get through it.

[mazing]

I'm sorry to hear about that. All I can say is take it one day at a time. Break ups are never easy, especially when SI is involved. Take it slow, focus on the reasons that you stopped cutting and the reasons you don't want to start again. Use distractions when needed.

It takes time but it will get easier again. If you can't lean on friends, lean on people here. We are always happy to listen and support if we can.

I can't promise to have answers but if you ever want to talk - abotu what is happening or just as a distraction - please feel free to contact me. I'm always happy to listen.

Hang in there Thinking of you.

[Sam2]

Originally Posted by XserenityX

My boyfriend just broke up with me because he wants to be single. The problem is he was basically my best friend. I don't have a lot of friends and he was the reason I was feeling okay. But now that he is gone... I'm worried it will all come back. The insecurities and cutting. I'm not sure what to do or how to keep it away. At this point it feels like too much work to think about trying to actually get through it.

Does your soon to be ex boyfriend know about your self harm? Secondly, can you keep him as a friend? I know its not the same, but you really need some solid friends right now.

This may be hard to hear, but if your ability to stop cutting was based purely on having your boyfriend, there is something deeper going on. We all have things that keep us from doing things that we know are wrong, but at the end of the day, its not enough. You need to find out what the source of your pain is. Breaking up with people is seriously difficult and painful and can be a trigger that causes previously controllable urges to be held in check. That being said, before you can really give your all to a relationship, you need to feel good about yourself and get to the bottom of what is causing your pain. Don't be embarrassed to discuss it with a therapist. They have heard it before and for a lot of different reasons. Getting those urges taken care of permanently will make you a stronger, happier person. Don't let it rob you of the best part of yourself. Use us as a sounding board if you need to . No one here will judge you or mock you. We are in the same boat with you and want nothing more than to see you succeed.

Sam2