[Musique_butterflys]

I need some advice. I haven't self harmed in about two and a half weeks and it's starting to get to me. I don't know what to do. I've tried ice cubes, snapping an elastic band, drawing with a red marker, dancing, singing, drawing and a few other activities and nothing seems to be able to distract me. I can't even COOK DINNER without having the images and urge. I don't know what to do and I don't want to start again. I've worked so hard so far to stop. Please ANY advice and suggestions and appreciated. Thank you.

[Neptune83]

I have self harmed on and off for years. The stop gaps it's my family who give me determination, especially my kids because they might ask questions. Is there anyone in your life that could give you the determination you need? Someone you can picture in your mind instead of self harm?

[beautifulfreak]

I wish I could help you, however, I not in not in a good state. I tried some of things you mentioned too. I wish I had answers. I can offer you a hug and let you know you are not alone.

[Moodswing]

Go to you tube and watch a how to video on juggling. Get 3 balls and practice juggling. That keeps you mind focused and calms acts as a grounding technique. This is actually a tactic my therapist gave me when I am about to binge/purge.

[Musique_butterflys]

Thank you for the juggling comment maybe i'll try that.

And sorry that you're having a tough time too beautifulfreak. Hope you feel better soon *hugs*

And no I don't have someone like kids to think of. I have family and stuff but when i'm that anxious thinking of family doesn't really help much.

[Fuzzybear]

All i can offer is that you're not alone

[Neptune83]

I tried the elastic band thing once, and my GP told me to stop it because it was annoying!! Didn't mean to be annoying, but doctors and just the surgery itself make me very anxious.
I have to say, although I wouldn't encourage anyone to self harm, at times it is the lesser of two evils. Is there anyone you can talk to about it? A good friend, family member or someone? I know how hard it can be, but there are times where I just need to vent my anger/frustration or whatever it is and that can at times do the trick. Sometimes nothing does and I give in. It's not an easy thing to avoid if that's what you use to cope

[Musique_butterflys]

Hi, thnks for all the comments. And to answer you Neptune83 I have a few friends and family members but they wouldn't understand. and I was recently diagnosed with BPD and they don't understand that either so its difficult. And slightly embarrassing too