[FreedomButterfly90]

any ideas on how to stop or least stop mid way?

[ECHOES]

Is it harder to stop when you are at church?

What if someone did see you? Might they be concerned and want to help?

[FreedomButterfly90]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Is it harder to stop when you are at church?

What if someone did see you? Might they be concerned and want to help?

I have a friend at church and she said what i was doing was distracting her and other people during church, i manly rub my hands till they burn or pound my bony wrists in to wooden seat or try to dislocate myself.

I find myself more prone if im previously upset and disagree with the message being said by the paster or i dwell and emotionally act out , several have tried to support me and stop me.

[possum220]

How to stop hurting yourself? Are you getting anything positive from going to church? If it is upsetting you that much then stop going. Or find one that doesn't rock your boat so much. Something is obviously upsetting you. Or maybe talk to the pastor.

Sometimes those who want to help make things better, end up making things worse.

There is always church on TV if you are so inclined. Or otherwise go to a small group.

If you have to hurt yourself in church something is wrong. Find out what or who the trigger is and act accordingly.

I was hoping that religion would help me with my personal issues and tried going to church and even volunteering there. However, for some reason, I always found myself getting upset and sometimes even angry. Clearly, it was not helping me.

If what the clergy is saying upsets you to the point that you are self-harming while listening then it sounds like you are in the wrong place. And, if your self-harming is so noticible that it disturbs others then, at the very least, you might consider sitting off to the side or in the back of the church. However, from the sound of it, you might be better off not going at all. You might also request a private meeting with a friendly member of the clergy at the chuch to discuss what is bothering you. Getting the issues that are causing you to self-harm off your chest might make attending service rewarding and enjoyable rather than anger inducing. All the best to you!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by FreedomButterfly90

any ideas on how to stop or least stop mid way?

when ever I get the urge to harm myself ....anywhere...not just at church...that means I am having a hard time handling what is going on at that moment. to take care of myself I stop whats going on ..

example I get up and walk out of the church.. sometimes all it takes is a breath of fresh air. other times I go for a walk while my wife is in church. and other times I dont even go to church since I know being in church is a trigger that day.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by FreedomButterfly90

I have a friend at church and she said what i was doing was distracting her and other people during church, i manly rub my hands till they burn or pound my bony wrists in to wooden seat or try to dislocate myself.

I find myself more prone if im previously upset and disagree with the message being said by the paster or i dwell and emotionally act out , several have tried to support me and stop me.

I can certainly see how this would distract someone..kind of like being in a class and someone in the room is snacking on potato chips... or even something like being here on psych central and you happen to come across a suicidal posting where you know someone is having a hard time but you are limited in what you can do at the moment to help this person.. you cant concentrate on what you need to do if someone else is harming their self right in front of you...

here we are in church when we should be listening to the sermon and be paying attention to our higher powers words and someone next to us or somewhere in the room is hurting their self....I would be distracted and not be able to do what I was supposed to be in church to do either.

you made a point of saying many have tried to stop you..Im wondering if somewhere inside you if this is the reason why you continue doing so in church..

most people I know who self injure do so in private not in a public church where everyone can see them doing it and there are people who will try and stop them..so maybe look at why you need to do so in front of your friend in church will lead you to what you need to do in order to stop doing it in church in front of your friend.

[FreedomButterfly90]

i dont do it just cause shes around honestly or just so people can try to stop me or help me or support me if i wanted that i would have asked for it not self injured to get it .I guess i just ruminate to much in church like how my life is ,how would God respond,etc an the pasters words break through and its like i get defensive idk why and in a weriod way i try to protect myself from my head by self harming weriod way i know .

Im going to try to just try to relax before church like listening to music or something very calming an when im in church im going to try to not ruminate so much an just focus on God not me.

there are some other churchs i was going to check out but have not yet.

Originally Posted by amandalouise

I can certainly see how this would distract someone..kind of like being in a class and someone in the room is snacking on potato chips... or even something like being here on psych central and you happen to come across a suicidal posting where you know someone is having a hard time but you are limited in what you can do at the moment to help this person.. you cant concentrate on what you need to do if someone else is harming their self right in front of you...

here we are in church when we should be listening to the sermon and be paying attention to our higher powers words and someone next to us or somewhere in the room is hurting their self....I would be distracted and not be able to do what I was supposed to be in church to do either.

you made a point of saying many have tried to stop you..Im wondering if somewhere inside you if this is the reason why you continue doing so in church..

most people I know who self injure do so in private not in a public church where everyone can see them doing it and there are people who will try and stop them..so maybe look at why you need to do so in front of your friend in church will lead you to what you need to do in order to stop doing it in church in front of your friend.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by FreedomButterfly90

Im going to try to just try to relax before church like listening to music or something very calming an when im in church im going to try to not ruminate so much an just focus on God not me.

there are some other churchs i was going to check out but have not yet.

sounds like a great plan

[FreedomButterfly90]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

sounds like a great plan

Well i still get emotional to the point i have to leave the service on a pretense
Of going to the bathroom and a best friend invited me to sit with her if things got hard.
Her other friends try to be there for me when she cant help