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Aug 08, 2013, 06:12 PM
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I hate when people bring up the scars they do notice and ask what's wrong. Why do they think it's their problem? If I wanted to talk about it I would have.
Someone once asked me where I got my scars. She obviously knew but was trying to ask without revealing she knew. I smiled and said I could show her where they came from if she liked. She didn't ask again. |
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Aug 08, 2013, 06:20 PM
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Lol! That was a funny response. I'm not sure why people think its their business. I had a patient at work with healed but distinct scars (words had been cut in the skin so there was no disguising how they got there). I didn't say a thing at all. I didn't think it was my business. That wasn't his purpose for coming, and he was already noticeably embarrassed that i'd have to see the part of his body they were on to do my job in the first place.
Most of my scars are fairly new. So I haven't had that problem yet (heaven forbid the day I do). BUT I do have one old scar from the first time I cut. I was on a study abroad trip and one of the other students asked where the scar came from. I told her I had so many scars (from eczema, falls, unintentional self destructive behavior) that I really couldn't pin point where it came from. Instead of dropping the issue, she asked in a mocking/playful tone: "Did you use to be a cutter?!" I just laughed and rolled my eyes, but I really was speechless. |
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Aug 08, 2013, 06:32 PM
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I use to say they were cat scratches, which worked when I worked at a veterinary clinic. Now that they have healed and are fairly pale, not many ask about them any more. Now I just cut where people won't see right away.
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Aug 09, 2013, 03:11 AM
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I use to work at a veterinary clinic also and I use that as my excuse too.
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Aug 09, 2013, 05:31 AM
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Tell them you are training to be a Tiger Tamer.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Aug 09, 2013, 03:31 PM
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I've never been asked, but I also do it where no one can really see. I would find it annoying if someone did ask, especially if they couldn't understand it.
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