I don't want to hurt anymore.

welive14 · Sep 01, 2013, 10:22 PM

I started self harming when I was 10 years old....

Now I'm 14 and I have been clean for the past 2 months until today. The stress with my family gets worse everyday and it's to much to take. I just want advice I keep on trying to stop and then go back to it. Is there anything that would be helpful that I could do? if you read my other story you will understand more.

Any ideas? I want to get better I really do it's just so hard....

tealBumblebee · Sep 02, 2013, 07:21 PM

I haven't read your story or been in your shoes, but I can empathize. Have you tried speaking to your parents about how you feel? Or a teacher, or a guidance counselor? I'd say a friend, but honestly at that age, they probably aren't emotionally mature enough to address such a serious situation.

Sometimes families don't realize just how much a child internalizes until it's too late. So its a great thing that you recognize your stressors, your coping mechanisms, and that they are maladaptive.

For trying to stop, I know a lot of people suggest the rubberband method (wearing a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it when you feel the need to self harm). In a way its still self harming, but its a great way to have less permanent effects. You could also draw, paint (even if you're not good at these things), listen to music, take a walk, scream into a pillow, bake cupcakes, build a card house, or really do anything that can divert your attention and those negative thoughts.

I would also suggest maybe joining an activity at school, or an after school program. Not only would these things distract you, but they would take you away, even if temporarily, from the source of your stress.

Good job on being clean for two months!! Thats a very big deal! You obviously have great determination, so good for you =] I hope you feel better!

welive14 · Sep 03, 2013, 12:19 AM

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Originally Posted by tealBumblebee

I haven't read your story or been in your shoes, but I can empathize. Have you tried speaking to your parents about how you feel? Or a teacher, or a guidance counselor? I'd say a friend, but honestly at that age, they probably aren't emotionally mature enough to address such a serious situation.

Sometimes families don't realize just how much a child internalizes until it's too late. So its a great thing that you recognize your stressors, your coping mechanisms, and that they are maladaptive.

For trying to stop, I know a lot of people suggest the rubberband method (wearing a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it when you feel the need to self harm). In a way its still self harming, but its a great way to have less permanent effects. You could also draw, paint (even if you're not good at these things), listen to music, take a walk, scream into a pillow, bake cupcakes, build a card house, or really do anything that can divert your attention and those negative thoughts.

I would also suggest maybe joining an activity at school, or an after school program. Not only would these things distract you, but they would take you away, even if temporarily, from the source of your stress.

Good job on being clean for two months!! Thats a very big deal! You obviously have great determination, so good for you =] I hope you feel better!

See i cant do any of that stuff..... read my other story you will understand self harm is the least of my worries......

But i do draw and paint and i also dance sing and act.

welive14 · Sep 06, 2013, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by tealBumblebee

I haven't read your story or been in your shoes, but I can empathize. Have you tried speaking to your parents about how you feel? Or a teacher, or a guidance counselor? I'd say a friend, but honestly at that age, they probably aren't emotionally mature enough to address such a serious situation.

Sometimes families don't realize just how much a child internalizes until it's too late. So its a great thing that you recognize your stressors, your coping mechanisms, and that they are maladaptive.

For trying to stop, I know a lot of people suggest the rubberband method (wearing a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it when you feel the need to self harm). In a way its still self harming, but its a great way to have less permanent effects. You could also draw, paint (even if you're not good at these things), listen to music, take a walk, scream into a pillow, bake cupcakes, build a card house, or really do anything that can divert your attention and those negative thoughts.

I would also suggest maybe joining an activity at school, or an after school program. Not only would these things distract you, but they would take you away, even if temporarily, from the source of your stress.

Good job on being clean for two months!! Thats a very big deal! You obviously have great determination, so good for you =] I hope you feel better!

I tried the rubber band method it helps a lot!

thanks

tealBumblebee · Sep 07, 2013, 08:52 PM

I'm glad its working in some way for you!! You're strong and awesome. You can do this

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