[Angel of Bedlam]

I was literally minutes away from self-harm but managed to stop myself. My problem is that I want to be proud of it, but I feel like normal people don't cut so why is it something to celebrate? I should always he able to resist that urge, everyone else does.

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[beloiseau]

'Normal people' don't walk around all day resisting the urge to cut, they don't know what it even feels like to have that urge, so don't compare yourself to people who don't SI. It is totally something to be proud of!! Someone trying to stop smoking might not have a cigarette, but they can't say they are better than someone who didn't take that shot of alcohol because everyone's situation is different. So, congratulations, you resisted the urge!!

[mazing]

I definitely agree with beloiseau! Overcoming any form of addiction is never easy and it definitely should be praised.

I was recently at a conference where they were talking about SI and it really stuck with me. Most people who aren't harming also haven't experienced what you have - they haven't been in that level of pain. We all have different thresholds when it comes to managing pain and some naturally have a higher tolerance than others but self-injury is a way of trying to manage pain and suffering when all else fails. Any 'normal person' who was under extreme pressure and pain, and found that other coping mechanisms fail, could be drawn to self-injury to manage. It isn't a question of being normal, but of how much you have been through and managed to survive

Well done on overcoming the urges.