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Nov 14, 2013, 09:35 AM
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I've run into this situation several times at school now, where I see that someone I know cuts because I spotted their scars or unusually large number of bracelets. I know that you're obviously supposed to say something and help if your friend harms, but what about for people you really don't know that well? Like, you know each other but not much beyond that.
I always really really want to help but I feel like that would be creepy going to them and saying "hey dude I know that you cut yourself do you wanna talk about it". That seems very stalker-ish. Any suggestions or guidelines for these types of situations? - AJ |
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Nov 14, 2013, 11:56 AM
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Wow, that's a really great question AJ. As a person who's done if for years, sometimes all I wished was for someone to be friends with me, and talk to me - but I didn't have many friends, if any at all. I think, one way you could do it, is to just go up to them one day, and talk. Maybe become friends. Cutting is definitely something serious, but sometimes it's not necessarily the best choice for a first conversation topic. I feel like... if someone only decided to talk to me because of my SI, then they would consider me as a charity case, or they pitied me. I know that everyone is different, but maybe if you just try to be their friend first, then that could also make all the difference. I can tell that you would make a great friend
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Nov 15, 2013, 08:11 AM
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Yeah, I agree, I don't want to seem like I'm only talking to them because of their SI, and I guess if I approach them about SI I feel obliged to tell them about mine too? I know I would be pretty creeped out if someone I didn't know that well just approached me and said that they knew I SI...
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Nov 15, 2013, 09:09 AM
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I know what you mean - I've been in similar situations. Hmm... sometimes, if you approach them, you two won't become friends, and they won't be willing to get to know you, or you them. But I think that if you try to, and you become friends with atleast one person who suffers from the same thing, then everything is worth it - and you two can help each other. Good luck AJ
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