[winkynjr]

I was just curious about others ages if I may ask? I am 46 and a friend says I am too old to SI!!!!

[SheHulk07]

I'm 27, but I si for the first time when I was 14, then not again till I was 19, but most of it has been in the past two years.

[winkynjr]

I turned to alcohol and drugs when I was 15 so I didn't start SI until I was about 26!!! I quit drugs and alcohol when I was 24 but I can't quit freaking cutting!!! I don't understand!!! I even quit cigarettes!!!!

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'm 31. I started SI when I was 13. I stopped when I was 22. I started again 3 months ago. I stopped again a month and a half ago. The urges have never gone away.

[AnnaBegins]

I'm 37 and a friend of mine said the same thing to me that yours did. I started when I was 16, stopped in my mid 20s and started again about a year ago.

[tealBumblebee]

I'm 25. Started when i was 19ish. Stopped immediately. Started again a few months after turning 25; no intent to stop. Your friend has no right to tell you that you're too old to feel pain (inner turmoil or whatever your trigger is) & try to cope the best way you know how.

[Samanthagreene]

I don't think you can be too old to SI. It's like saying boys can't be depressed, which is patently untrue. Don't let comments like that get under your skin.

[winkynjr]

She also said I am being childish!!!

[falsememory7]

I'm fairly young, yet sometimes I feel twice my age However, wink, don't pay attention to what others tell you - there is no age limit for SIing, there is no age limit for depression, there is no age limit for emotions. I recently stopped SIing, but the urges are always there - I don't think that they'll ever go away. But the point is, that opinions are opinions. There will always be people who people that some are too young to SI, and some are too old - but that's all relative to people's perspectives and opinions. Just hang in there, and never focus on other people's beliefs I hope you hang in there, and hold on tight. Things always get better

[falsememory7]

Originally Posted by winkynjr

She also said I am being childish!!!

Also, that doesn't sound like a very good friend at all. I'm so sorry that she said that, it's ridiculous! You're not being childish at all

[Victoria'smom]

I'm 30 now, started at 11.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by winkynjr

She also said I am being childish!!!

Well, that's awfully dismissive, of your friend, wouldn't you say? Haven't, since I was 15, I'm 38 now. Had a friend, who was 32, when I was 25, she did some serious damage, severed tendons and lost feeling in her fingers.

It was tough, to realize she'd done this, to herself. Far, from childish, just displayed, to me, an immense amount of internal pain.

She wound up, back, in the hospital. Sad, to see her, in pain, at the same time, I knew she was in counseling.

It's not an age thing, it's not Childs play, either.

I am sorry, you are in such pain, right now

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[breakmystride]

I'm 22, and started less than a year ago.

I tell myself sometimes that I'm too old for this, but then again, it's not really a good thing to do at any age.

[reesecups]

I'm fifty. Have SI'd since being a teen but was really terrible doing it when I was in my 29's and thirties. Once I was older I fought the impulse to cut my arms so that I could stop wearing long sleeves during hot summer months. Since then I learned to cut on my abdomen. But haven't even done that since July. Maybe my fifties will finally be my decade?!

[Blue_Bird]

I'm 19 and started around age 12

Started at 14 and I'm now 23. I stopped for 11 months when I was 17/18 but I don't have the resolve to now. I don't really care enough

[winkynjr]

Originally Posted by reesecups

I'm fifty. Have SI'd since being a teen but was really terrible doing it when I was in my 29's and thirties. Once I was older I fought the impulse to cut my arms so that I could stop wearing long sleeves during hot summer months. Since then I learned to cut on my abdomen. But haven't even done that since July. Maybe my fifties will finally be my decade?!

Thank you so much for sharing this with me!!!

[winkynjr]

I am really fighting not to SI!!!! I am so tired of hurting those that I love and care about!!!!! Why do I keep giving into a ****in tiny little blade?????? It sounds so minute and stupid to me but yet I keep doing it!!!!! HELP!!!!!!

[beloiseau]

I'm 25, started a few months ago when I was 24. Old to start but I had a very sheltered upbringing

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[TheWell]

I'm 42
Started when I was 13
Off and on but really bad the past 6 years

[Angel of Bedlam]

I started at 13, stopped and then started again at 16. Stopped at 19 and started again at 23. 24 now.

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[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by winkynjr

I am really fighting not to SI!!!! I am so tired of hurting those that I love and care about!!!!! Why do I keep giving into a ****in tiny little blade?????? It sounds so minute and stupid to me but yet I keep doing it!!!!! HELP!!!!!!

SI is an addiction. It causes the brain to release endorphins which make you feel good. Over time, we become addicted to that chemical and seek it out. Endorphins are also released in the brain when you eat chocolate, spicy food, exercise, have sex, etc.

The act itself also provides us with a way to have some control in our lives and to also express our internal feelings.

I'm not saying this will help you out when you're struggling, but it does answer the why.

Try to be patient with yourself. No matter what the type of SI or the type of addiction, there will be ups and downs. One thing I try really hard not to do is count the days I've gone w/o SI. The higher the number of days w/o it, the more pressure it puts on me.

[reesecups]

Originally Posted by winkynjr

I am really fighting not to SI!!!! I am so tired of hurting those that I love and care about!!!!! Why do I keep giving into a ****in tiny little blade?????? It sounds so minute and stupid to me but yet I keep doing it!!!!! HELP!!!!!!

Hang in there. Try not to beat yourself up. I did the same thing until my therp beat it into me that it was a coping mechanism. A poor one, but until I learned better coping skills, it was a coping skills nevertheless. Try not to be ashamed that you need it sometimes, just need help in finding ways to deal with your feelings in other ways.

I haven't SI'd since July, but there are still times I fight the impulse. When. I get triggered my mind immediately goes to SI. So far, I've been able to use other things to get out of the mind set, but I can only hope that they continue to work. Good luck!

[Mike_J]

I'm 50,

my first SI event was when I was in my early 40s

[thickntired]

Originally Posted by winkynjr

I turned to alcohol and drugs when I was 15 so I didn't start SI until I was about 26!!! I quit drugs and alcohol when I was 24 but I can't quit freaking cutting!!! I don't understand!!! I even quit cigarettes!!!!

I'm 43 and started SI when I was about 12 thru 25. I'm also a recovering addict/alcoholic/cigg smoker. I've been clean for almost a year. The last time I SI I did some major damage and had to go to the ER for staples. I think that was part of why I quit and don't feel the urge so much anymore. I have some horrible scars now and nerve damage. I didn't feel a thing at the time which is nuts.

Peace,

TnT