Lately and usually on and off I have thoughts and plans of hurting or even killing myself, not for attention, but to make the pain of loneliness stop. I constantly feel lonely and have no friends and have trouble making them. I don't understand why people don't like being friends with me or don't show any interest. It may be partly because I look a bit different and am moderately to severely hearing impaired, but I still feel like there are other reasons. People seem okay knowing me on a more casual level, like acquaintanceships, but no more than that. Or people feel like they need to befriend me only out of pity, obligation, or to use me. I'm really fed up with this and just sometimes want out since I can no longer find any answers and when I ask people in real life, either they say they don't know why I have trouble making friends, or that I'm too nice which I have changed that now since I no longer let people walk over me, or people will say that there is nothing wrong with me. If there is nothing wrong with me then I don't understand why I can't make friends. If there is something wrong with me, then I need to know so I can rectify the problem.

[SoupDragon]

l am sorry that you are having these thoughts at the moment. l have them too and have learned to think of them as a gauge to how low l feel, rather than thoughts that l want to turn into actions. Seeing a therapist has really helped me and l wonder if you are able to access one? Take Care and l hope you can find support here on PC. Soup.

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

l am sorry that you are having these thoughts at the moment. l have them too and have learned to think of them as a gauge to how low l feel, rather than thoughts that l want to turn into actions. Seeing a therapist has really helped me and l wonder if you are able to access one? Take Care and l hope you can find support here on PC. Soup.

Thank you, I would feel much better if I could figure out what the problem is and solve it.

[SoupDragon]

l think sometimes it is hard to figure out things on our own. One thing l have learned from my therapist, is that I cannot control things that happen outside of me, but l can learn to be aware of my reaction to those things and work to stop those darker thoughts getting the better of me. Soup

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

l think sometimes it is hard to figure out things on our own. One thing l have learned from my therapist, is that I cannot control things that happen outside of me, but l can learn to be aware of my reaction to those things and work to stop those darker thoughts getting the better of me. Soup

That makes sense, I will try that and thank you bud.

[smmath]

I tend to be closed off to people and am socially awkward which makes having close friends really hard. So maybe what you are unintentionally projecting to the people around you is that of someone who is hard to communicate with or some other characteristic with a negative denotation.

I am not trying to accuse you of anything or saying this your fault, just trying to gove you something to think about.

Please message me if you want to talk about this more :-)

Originally Posted by smmath

I tend to be closed off to people and am socially awkward which makes having close friends really hard. So maybe what you are unintentionally projecting to the people around you is that of someone who is hard to communicate with or some other characteristic with a negative denotation.

I am not trying to accuse you of anything or saying this your fault, just trying to gove you something to think about.

Please message me if you want to talk about this more :-)

Thanks, I just messaged you.

Friends never came easy to me either. I don't have any freinds in the trust them with your life sense, but a few in the good to see you sense. Few meaning I could count them on one hand. I have never be a trusting or out going person and that was and is the problem. Two important thing I find for a true freind are common ground and interest, and a mutual respect for one another. I had a freind in high school were the only thing we had In common was fishing.

Originally Posted by overthis

Friends never came easy to me either. I don't have any freinds in the trust them with your life sense, but a few in the good to see you sense. Few meaning I could count them on one hand. I have never be a trusting or out going person and that was and is the problem. Two important thing I find for a true freind are common ground and interest, and a mutual respect for one another. I had a freind in high school were the only thing we had In common was fishing.

I see exactly where your coming from, it can be hard these days.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

To be completely honest, I think it is actually kind of cool that you look different and are hard of hearing. I don't mean to be insensitive. I just think it's really cool. You're special.
I'm sorry making friends is troubling you. <3 but I would totally be your friend hehe hope you have some good fortune soon.

Friendly sent from,
Gomf

Originally Posted by GirlOfManyFaces

To be completely honest, I think it is actually kind of cool that you look different and are hard of hearing. I don't mean to be insensitive. I just think it's really cool. You're special.
I'm sorry making friends is troubling you. <3 but I would totally be your friend hehe hope you have some good fortune soon.

Friendly sent from,
Gomf

Thank you, I will message you.