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Old Mar 01, 2004, 07:46 AM
Chippie Chippie is offline
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I can't believe it. I just found out my mom had been snooping around my room, she found a little contract thing my boyfriend and I made up about my cutting. She didn't even tell me at first, which I understand, but when she did she told me that I could go to h*ll for all she cared. I hate this there's nothing I can really say. It seemed like she was more upset about her snooping around than anything and I just find that really disturbing. I hate this maybe it is pointless to try and stop.


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Old Mar 01, 2004, 10:51 AM
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Your mom was totaly out of line. She should have sat down and thought about it before confronting you. That way she would realize that right now you need her support and love. And if she was mad about you talking to someone else about it then she shouldn't be- she should be glad in knowing that you are making that contract in the right direction with at least someone. Don't give up... stick to it, and don't let your mom get to you. I know it is hard, but until she learns that you need siupport she isn't any help to you.

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Old Mar 01, 2004, 11:29 AM
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Val is right on in her reply. You should be able to expect support from your mother, not having to put up with her making you feel worse. I'm sorry that you were hurt by her mistake. You can only control what you do though, and how you act. I hope you won't let her actions stop you from continuing the progress you have been making. Do you live at home? Might you be able to look into moving out?

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Old Mar 01, 2004, 11:48 AM
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I agree with val and rapunzel. I do want to add that it is totally awesome that you made a contract with your boyfriend. You have turned to someone who does want to support you in this and help you get past it. Don't let your mom take that away from you. I was wondering if your mom has some sort of mental illness or if she is an addict of some sort. Sorry if I am out of line asking but her reaction to your problem makes it sound like she has some issues of her own that have not been addressed yet. There is nothing that you can do for her but there is so much you can do for yourself and you have made a good start.
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Old Mar 01, 2004, 12:00 PM
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Keep trying. Don't let someone get in the way of your recovery. Cutting is very addictive and disfiguring - it doesn't solve anything long term.

My T is very much into "long term and short term" solutions. You need to find something to replace your cutting with - something that will soothe you.

Don't give up!

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Old Mar 04, 2004, 12:30 AM
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My mom has been seeing a doc for a little, but more just about my brother and I growing up and stuff, as far as I know. She has calmed down a bit, which has helped a lot. I made an appointment with a p doc, and just had it yesterday. I was soooo nervous but I think it will help in the end. Thanks everyone.

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