[moodycow]

Relapsed after six years husband does not know of or understand si ,having hard time hiding it .

[kaliope]

I am sorry for the deep pain you must be struggling with right now to have relapsed after so long. I hope you can find a way to manage it soon. take care.

[x_BabyG_x]

For starters, 6 years is a HUGE achievement, well done that's amazing!!! 2nd of all, forgive yourself for it. Once relapse in such amount of time in sure you can let yourself off for, so be kind to yourself (I relapsed after 3 and a half years, and I was gutted but I quickly moved on, it happens!). And of course most importantly, can you identify the trigger for your actions? Are you going through some issues that need to be resolved to prevent it from happening again? I hope your feeling better soon, give yourself a pat on the back for it though as 6 years is a very long time to keep as strong as you managed to be! Hugs xxxx

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[moodycow]

thanks for this, i had not really looked at it like that. my husband found out and reacted exactly how i feared he would ,getting upset an shouting an trying to make me make promises, guess this is quite common.?

[x_BabyG_x]

Yep! My partner didn't talk to me for 24 hours. They don't understand we are in pain and that we need support but I don't blame people who haven't experienced it to understand anyway!

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[moodycow]

yes i agree. hard enough to understand even if you experience it , sorry you are feeling anxious today hope it passes quickly.

[hahahahah]

My girlfriend and I had a pact about SI, instead of a threat of leaving. Being that we both have mental health issues, we have both have had problems with SI. So instead of "Don't do it or...." it was "you don't do it and I won't either." Not that it always worked, but the empathy involved in the pact made the guilt of relapsing lessen quite a bit.

[moodycow]

Thankyou for sharing this it is good that it helped